Anonymous #5 1w

Relax yall he loves me

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Anonymous OP 1w

As long as your parents are okay with it. He’s still perverted. That’s a fact.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Of course he loves a child. You’re not even old enough to drink🤮. You’re still a child and he’s obviously just a big boy. Nasty

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Anonymous #5 1w

Don’t even know what that means but I’m very happy 🫶

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Anonymous OP 1w

Exactly. Have fun dating a borderline predator.

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Anonymous eatcows 1w

Right? Like there’s something mentally wrong with his brain.

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Anonymous #5 1w

Love is love

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Anonymous OP 1w

2 manipulating people. You’re too young to know what love is. When you were 15, he was 23. Imagine that

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Anonymous #5 1w

Oh no he’s manipulating me into a happy healthy relationship:(

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Anonymous #9 1w

That’s what I’d like to understand… cuz the math ain’t mathing in this situation here

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Anonymous #17 1w

It literally is. I don’t even think the OP is even in that situation fr

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Anonymous mother_russia 1w

He does love me

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Anonymous #9 1w

This whole post is just a ploy to troll people

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Anonymous #13 1w

I am I just like seeing the generic he’s a predator comments

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Anonymous OP 1w

Hun, control and power over you isn’t loving you. He doesn’t even know who you truly are, you don’t even know who you truly are. If someone that much older than you truly loved you, they would wait to date you until you’re older. Give you a chance to figure yourself out and grow as a person.

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Anonymous OP 1w

If you are genuinely in this relationship, I can promise you it’s not healthy on his end. You might not see it right now especially if you’ve been craving love for a while, but it’s not love of you, he is loving something else.

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Anonymous mother_russia 1w

You don’t know that though you’re just basing that off stereotypes and generalizations

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Anonymous OP 1w

No ultimately the psychology behind grooming is the name no matter the situation. Never in my life have I seen, heard, or read about any documented case where this wasn’t true. It’s always a power thing.

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Anonymous mother_russia 1w

There’s no power imbalance and I was never groomed

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Anonymous OP 1w

The fact that you “like seeing the generic ‘he’s a predator’ comments” tell me all I need to know about you. Have fun in your relationship with your young and naive mind. You will figure out in the end what’s right and wrong for you one way or another… and I say that out of respect, good luck gurl.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Unless he is mentally, life experiences, and emotionally stunted by 8 years, there is definitely a power imbalance girl

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Anonymous OP 1w

Be real, why would he choose you, someone who lacks actual brain capacity and emotional regulation and lacks severely in experience, to be his “partner” meaning equal. I’m only 21 and I would never date someone 18. There is always a power imbalance when dating someone 18 when you’re 26.

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Anonymous mother_russia 1w

He might be a little stunted I guess but I’m not an average 18 year old. I appreciate the concern truly but it’s a genuine connection

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Anonymous OP 1w

if you had to ask a community of stangers anonymously, that means you were doubting the ethics of it yourself

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Anonymous #18 1w

I just like seeing all the assumptions

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Anonymous OP 1w

i don’t understand how you could possibly have anything in common. bro is old enough to have children that can to to school

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Anonymous #18 1w

go*

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Anonymous #18 1w

We work together and I’m very mature for my age. He thought I was older when we met. It was a slow burn and we just click

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Anonymous OP 1w

…how old were you when you met him?

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Anonymous OP 1w

You are still held within the same constraints as every human with limited brain development and limited time to experience life. You could be a super extraordinary 18 year old and it’s still an unhealthy power dynamic in the relationship.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I need you to understand that that’s always what they say. The first impression of your age doesn’t equate to the reality of your actual age. I grew large boobs at 14 and everyone assumed I was much older than I was, however I was still very much a child despite first impressions.

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Anonymous mother_russia 1w

It’s not just him it’s my family and friends too. I have people older than me calling me Auntie at work because I don’t act 18. He is NOT a creep and he’s not interested in my age it slowed things down even because he wasn’t trying to pursue an 18 year old

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Anonymous #9 1w

I was 17 for another month or two when I first met him but we didn’t grow closer as just friends until a month or two after my birthday (he didn’t know my age at that point)

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If that’s to me, yes

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Anonymous OP 1w

Lmaooo so bro wanted you when u were 17. You’re so smart actually don’t take any of our advice go for it lol

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Anonymous #14 1w

We were just friends at that point. He wasn’t interested at the start we just worked together but we grew closer over time

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Anonymous #14 1w

What was the point of this post? U can pretend ur happy rage baiting but the way you keep defending that perv makes it look like you actually do care and are aware he’s a predator. Idc if you look old, once he found out ur age he should have been grossed out. Ask him why no woman his age wants him. Ask him why he’s into TEENS, bc ur still a teen and will be so for another yr. Ask yourself would he go lower? Leave you for a 16 or 15 yr old since age “doesn’t matter” to him.

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Anonymous #14 1w

Oops sorry wasn’t meant for u 14 it was meant for op

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Anonymous #8 1w

He’s not into teens he’s into me. I’m the youngest he’s ever dated, it’s not a habit lol

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Anonymous OP 1w

lol as if he would admit to that 😂 honey he’s going to tell you what you want to hear “ur so mature. Ur my first. Ur different” please don’t tell me ur actually falling for that? It’s the equivalent of the white van offering candy to kids. Why couldn’t you answer anything else tho…bc you know we are right

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Anonymous OP 1w

You genuinely too young and because of that too stupid to realize what is happening to u

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Anonymous OP 1w

"I wasn't groomed" as you proceed to textbook define him grooming you when you were a minor

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Anonymous #1 1w

How was it textbook grooming

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Anonymous #15 1w

Thank you 🫶 I’m very happy and I promise it’s not how everyone assumes it is lol

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Anonymous #12 1w

The opposite on both actually:)

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Anonymous OP 1w

Starting to feel like op is the predator and is getting off to ppl telling him he’s a perv for going for a teen 🚨

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Anonymous #8 1w

Interesting take

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Anonymous OP 1w

I can promise he asked other staff your age. He was definitely aware how young you were. A respectable adult puts distance between them and someone so much younger than them specifically to avoid them holding crushes on you and complicating the relationship at work.

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Anonymous OP 1w

And textbook grooming is first getting closer to you and specifically not coming on strong, telling you that you are special and that because you are so amazing/mature/adult/responsible/etc. that you are an exception to the rule of not dating someone so much younger than them

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Anonymous OP 1w

Another textbook example of grooming is soft pressure and guilting into doing things, like if you turn him down for something sexual him saying something like “sorry I thought you were ready because I forget how inexperienced you are” and setting it up as you proving yourself to be older/smarter/mature by doing things you aren’t actually ready for

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Anonymous OP 1w

I really really recommend you look up what grooming a teenager would look like and the things the perpetrator specifically does. It would really help you spot what behaviors are warning signs

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Anonymous mother_russia 1w

I can promise you he hasn’t talked to anyone else my age lol

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Anonymous mother_russia 1w

He has no grooming warning signs if anything it’s the opposite

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Anonymous OP 1w

you would say that, as his victim who is barely not a literal child

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Anonymous #1 1w

I’m not a victim 💀 and he’s not a pedo

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Anonymous OP 1w

Crazy that my initial thought when I got this notification is it was about Trump. Like girl get real

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Anonymous OP 1w

That’s not a prerequisite to being a predator. You could be the first person he has targeted but that doesn’t say anything else. How is it the opposite of grooming in your opinion?

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Anonymous mother_russia 1w

We broke up. I brought up what a lot of people here said and he said it’s for the best he needs to take care of his child. I guess he has a 2 year old he didn’t tell me about. He ended it and I can’t stop crying so thanks

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Anonymous OP 1w

Lmaooooo

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Anonymous OP 1w

HA! Lmao guess ur rage baiting didn’t work since this is how you looking rn 🤡. At least ur not with a predator anymore! Too bad you could have saved yourself the embarrassment SINCE HE LEFT YOU FOR SOMEONE YOUNGER LMAO 😂

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Anonymous #8 1w

I’m trolling lol. We gonna get married this year and he doesn’t have kids 😋

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Anonymous OP 1w

Commenting to give u more attention

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Anonymous #14 1w

Thank you 🫶

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