Red Flags on Sidechat | Guys, he asked me to make it official today, I said yes, after, I was on his phone and saw he messaged 3 girls that he "couldn't see them anymore", and to "not contact him anymore". And I really do not know if that's a green flag, or a red one...Help.

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Guys, he asked me to make it official today, I said yes, after, I was on his phone and saw he messaged 3 girls that he "couldn't see them anymore", and to "not contact him anymore". And I really do not know if that's a green flag, or a red one...Help.

Anonymous 17w

That’s normal for new relationships. When two people begin dating, they’re not monogamous to each other at first until both people agree to it. Unless you both agreed to be monogamous from the start, it’s a good sign. He’s ready to commit to you it seems.

Anonymous 17w

Its neutral. 4 on the roster is kinda a lot and he was probably neglecting at least one person which is bad, and if I were you I’d worry if he’s choosing you bc you’re his favorite or out of convenience. I wouldn’t worry too much abt that tho bc it’s ultimately 50/50. but telling them not to contact after making it official is good in a “thats the bare minimum expectation” kinda way.

Anonymous

#1 17w

Yeah, him and I talked about it last night, everything was cleared up thankfully, it just kind of threw me because we never really discussed whether it was exclusive or not up until then, and he was the only one I was talking to at the time, so i just assumed it was the same for him. My fault all around, i don’t blame him, i shouldn’t have assumed and talked to him about it.

Anonymous

#2 17w

Yeah, it just threw me off when I saw it because he was the only guy i was talking to at the time. But I understand we weren’t “official” and exclusive up until now, I’ve talked to him about it, everything is good between us :)