Red Flags on Sidechat | Guys, he asked me to make it official today, I said yes, after, I was on his phone and saw he messaged 3 girls that he "couldn't see them anymore", and to "not contact him anymore". And I really do not know if that's a green flag, or a red one...Help.

Sidechat

Download

Join communities on Sidechat Download

Red Flags 4w

Guys, he asked me to make it official today, I said yes, after, I was on his phone and saw he messaged 3 girls that he "couldn't see them anymore", and to "not contact him anymore". And I really do not know if that's a green flag, or a red one...Help.

Anonymous 4w

That’s normal for new relationships. When two people begin dating, they’re not monogamous to each other at first until both people agree to it. Unless you both agreed to be monogamous from the start, it’s a good sign. He’s ready to commit to you it seems.

Anonymous 4w

Its neutral. 4 on the roster is kinda a lot and he was probably neglecting at least one person which is bad, and if I were you I’d worry if he’s choosing you bc you’re his favorite or out of convenience. I wouldn’t worry too much abt that tho bc it’s ultimately 50/50. but telling them not to contact after making it official is good in a “thats the bare minimum expectation” kinda way.

Anonymous 4w

Wow, he’s willing to ditch three chicks just to have you and you go through his fucking phone…he can do so much better than you

-3

Anonymous

#3 4w

I was on his phone, not going through it, there’s a difference.

Anonymous

OP 4w

Nah your paranoia and insecurity is showing, you can’t hide it. The way you reacted when you found out he ditched the other chicks to get with you makes it obvious. And come on, do you really expect me to believe you could do something with his phone you couldn’t do with your own? Please.

-1

Anonymous

#3 4w

…Umm…first off, my phone was dead, so i couldn’t use mine…he gave me his phone when he went in the store, he’s aware I was on it, and him and I had a very productive conversation about it last night and everything was cleared up. Not that I need to explain anything to you, but nonetheless, here we are.

Anonymous

OP 4w

Exactly, you even feel the need to explain yourself to a stranger online over this. Weird but you’re right here we are so, let me get this straight. He’s so transparent that he trusts you with his phone that’s full of texts telling other women he can’t talk to them because he wants to make things official with you that you’re unable to tell whether or not this is a green flag or a red flag? That in and of itself is a huge red flag. Never trust a chick that can’t tell the good guys from bad.

-1

Anonymous

#3 4w

…As i said, Him and I had a very productive conversation about it last night.

Anonymous

#1 4w

Yeah, him and I talked about it last night, everything was cleared up thankfully, it just kind of threw me because we never really discussed whether it was exclusive or not up until then, and he was the only one I was talking to at the time, so i just assumed it was the same for him. My fault all around, i don’t blame him, i shouldn’t have assumed and talked to him about it.

Anonymous

#2 4w

Yeah, it just threw me off when I saw it because he was the only guy i was talking to at the time. But I understand we weren’t “official” and exclusive up until now, I’ve talked to him about it, everything is good between us :)

Anonymous

OP 4w

Don’t let this fool steal your energy 😭🙏

Anonymous

#4 4w

if he’d focus on his own love life and stop trashing mine he might actually have a girlfriend to make her life miserable.

Anonymous

OP 4w

I agree, and you deserve to spend your finite energy and attention on worthy people. People like this are intentionally being energy vampires