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I caught my dad (who’s been married to my mom for 30 years) using hinge, but he doesn’t know I did. I have no idea the extent of any cheating beyond that. My mom likely isn’t aware & is totally emotionally unstable in general. What should I do
#poll
Confront my dad
Tell my mom
Carry the secret
Carry the secret + move far away
Fuck girl idk
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Anonymous 4d

only confront your father if it’s safe, don’t get hurt girl

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Anonymous 5d

Confront dad and if he doesn’t fess up himself or is on some bs, tell mom yourself

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Anonymous 4d

I caught my mom using dating apps and didn’t say anything. Few months later my parents told me they were separating and had already been seeing people separately for a while (so there was no cheating). While my situation is unlikely to be the case for you, be careful

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Anonymous 5d

Yea my pops cheated on mom too. Apparently I snitched as a baby

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Anonymous 4d

Idea, maybe subtly bring it up. Idk how but start a conversation and somehow shift it to this topic (him looking at or ever considering other women). This way, he doesn’t feel “attacked” & might just he less likely to lie. Or you could just confront him head on. I’m trying to turn over a new and CALM leaf so that’s why I recommended the first option😭. But I’d say go from there. If he lies, you should definitely show your mom the page!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4d

Damn it’s the baby’s fault smh my head

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4d

Were they still doing things to act like they were married? Bc my parents still hold hands & go to dinner for their anniversaries & plan trips together & shit

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4d

Yeah I’d def have to do it in a way where he doesn’t feel attacked & then probably be straight up when he inevitably acts clueless. Unfortunately I’ve just seen him actively on his phone using it (dont have screenshots or anything) but trying to think of ways to gather evidence in case he lies & then tries to cover it up

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

Yes, sometimes I feel like the best way to get the truth from someone is to come off not super confrontational. That way, they’re less eager to lie. This makes me so sad for your mom. And right before the holidays?? Ugh oh no. I’m sure you’re gonna wait though, until you have enough evidence like you said

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

My parents never really held hands or did things together that didn’t include me but they were still giving each other little kisses and stuff

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