I would prefer us to be equal however if he makes more money than I do I wouldn’t complain unless he tries to use that as a point of superiority

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I know this is a sensitive topic. I’m just trying to gauge what people think I promise

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i find that if they’re of lower financial or social standing that they can’t help but have a chip on their shoulder about it which can get exhausting to constantly manage. my ex boyfriend yelled at me because i said i didn’t like mcdonald’s because it was unhealthy and he was saying that it was the only food option he had as a kid because it was cheap and that i will never understand what that’s like which is probably true

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i want him to have higher income but lower social standing because i’m just naturally more socially and i need to be for my job

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Social standing is such a weird concept for people to care about. What does that even mean in today’s society?

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What does social standing mean

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higher would make me jealous, lower is ok only if i’m crazy rich but if i’m not i’m not getting dragged down

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My thing is that I want *at least* equal- if he’s a kind, attractive guy, we’re compatible, & otherwise equal financially / socially, that’s great. But I’d happily take a man who makes more / has higher social standing as well

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As a woman who comes from a more fortunate background, it’s been my council to date men of my financial status or greater. I dated a man for 3 years that did not make as much as me and didn’t come from a background like mine and it really made him insecure. He made up for his insecurities through verbal aggression and social dominance. Since then, I have made the decision to not date men that need to compensate for the lack of masculinity they feel against me in finances/career.

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I can't stand the lowborn

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I make more than my bf currently but I would certainly prefer for him to get a higher-paying job eventually for our future, especially if we have kids

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