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when you get into a relationship, do you want ur partner to cut off friends of the opposite sex?
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yes!!
no wtf?
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Anonymous 1d

If anyone votes yes, you have major issues with paranoia and insecurity and you're probably socially and emotionally stunted, that goes for men or women, seek therapy

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Anonymous 1d

way too many people expect this of their partner and its fucking toxic idc

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Anonymous 1d

well i would want my partner to have a life outside of me…

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Anonymous 1d

I always thought there was no such thing as a “girl best friend” or “guy best friend” but then one of my female friends I hag out with 1 on 1 a lot got a bf and while he and I are friendly with each other I can’t help but feel like he doesn’t like us hanging out together so we’ve done so way less and often she says “oh yeah btw (her bf) is coming too” so I feel way more guarded with her with him around

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Anonymous 14h

wanting your partner to cut off a friend that ur worried about is one thing, but ALL of the opposite gender? thats crazy. are straight people okay💔

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Anonymous 1d

I think you don’t need to cut people off bc that is definitely toxic behavior… but you do need to be open to reevaluating the friendships you have with people of ur preferred sex. Even if you see them platonically, they might not see you that way- so if you get into a relationship I think you need to be more introspective on ur friendships you already have with the opposite sex.

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Anonymous 1d

i don’t think they need to cut them off, but they definitely should not hang out with them 1 on 1, it’s kinda weird and a bit disrespectful

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Anonymous 1d

Everyone who voted no are cucks

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

everyone who votes yes is an insecure control freak

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

Full disclosure if she had ever been down I would’ve been down, but I also think cheaters (and the people they cheat with who knowingly do so) are the scum of the earth so I could and would never do that with/to anyone

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

(Hang out not hag out 💀)

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1d

Or same sec idc whatever you prefer

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 21h

i dont get this. how is it disrespectful for someone to spend time with their friend?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 21h

We just gotta remember who is on this app. They’ll realize one day.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 21h

realize what

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

That more often than not, the person with a bunch of friends of the opposite gender or more often the insecure ones. People get into a relationship for a reason, and then seek the some type of attention and validation from those “friendships”. Also more often than not, it’s not YOU, it’s your friends. Look at #4’s response: “if she had ever been down, I would’ve been down”.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

Although, I do NOT think people should have to completely cut off all of their friends. Most things are on a spectrum, and to be an extremist on both ends is a red flag. But if your partner brings up a concern of one of your friendships, and you immediately jump to the “insecure” word, instead of actually evaluating it. That’s ignorant and I find it a trait of people who haven’t actually been through mature romantic relationships. (I.e they are also insecure)

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 21h

What do bisexual people do lmao — not have friends??

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 21h

i hear you. and i understand that expressing concern for a friendship is healthy and ok. but if theres a pattern of a person consistently telling their partners to cut off their friends, codependence, and controlling tendencies... they might be the problem! 😭 its normal and natural for humans to be friends with people of the opposite sex. to try to prevent that isnt normal

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

Like if ur friend wants to fuck you and you spend a kit of time around them withought addressing it that’s disrespectful to ur partner. At least that’s my take

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 20h

this isnt really the topic tho. we were talking about friendships in general. but yes, i agree. a 'friend' who is trying to ruin the relationship/ cause cheating should get cut off!! its important to respect ur partner

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Okok got you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

It's really weird to me how many people seem to think it's utterly unnatural or impossible for men and women to have platonic friendships

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

i take it as THEY personally are unable to empathize with & connect to the opposite sex if there's no potential for romance/sex they're telling on themselves

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 13h

exactly 🥀🥀😭

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