Anonymous #1 3d

So he did tell this girl he has a gf eventually like a FEW DAYS after texting but she didn’t wanna go anymore because she says there is attraction there and wouldn’t be comfortable. So maybe I should be happy he told her and didn’t go? He tells me he just wanted more friends bc he doesn’t have any back at home. I literally only know this tho bc I saw the text messages. We had only been together for like 2 months so it’s still really fresh

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Anonymous OP 3d

he didn't even tell you? you found out through the messages?

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Anonymous OP 3d

Still weird

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Anonymous OP 3d

have you set a boundary? had you previously discussed how you feel concerning opposite sex friendships? i dunno, i'm getting bad vibes from the situation.

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Anonymous #2 3d

We have only been together for like 3 months and didn’t really discuss boundaries like that.. i honestly just thought that was common sense in a relationship not to get other girls numbers? Idk I overthink and get really jealous easily so idk:( I’m just sad and we got into a huge fight and now I feel terrible

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Anonymous OP 3d

i totally understand you. it *should* be common sense, but not everyone holds the same values. you're absolutely valid in your feelings and should not feel terrible. if your partner cannot see the issue or understand where you're coming from, i would heavily encourage you to leave the relationship.

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Anonymous #2 3d

Thanks so much for the input and advice. I really appreciate u. Last thing I will say is that he also sent her a song on instagram bc he knows what she likes? This was a month later and then ALSO even after having this convo and how upset it made me, a few weeks later he hid a girl “friend” from me that apparently likes him still bc he knew i would also get upset. I want to just trust so bad but i hate that he doesn’t tell me these things

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Anonymous OP 3d

i understand. however, from what you just wrote, he's given you a lot of reasons not to trust him. i would end your relationship, if i were in your shoes. i know it's hard, but it's for your own sake. if he's lying/hiding this, what else is he going to lie about or hide? debt, gambling addictions, porn addictions, drug or alcohol addictions? the list could go on. communication is key in a relationship, paired with trust.

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