Anonymous #2 2w

my boyfriend did some fuck shit when we were talking and we’ve been together for almost two years now. when i spoke to him he was super understanding and just didn’t think it was a boundary of mine

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Anonymous #1 2w

He told me he waited to ask me out bc he wanted to keep talking to her and knew it wasn’t right but didn’t see anything wrong with it bc we weren’t official even tho we were with eachother everyday

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Anonymous #2 2w

Did he do anything similar while dating? I also noticed when we’re dating for a month he got a girls number on Instagram and they were gonna go to the beach together but then he finally said he has a gf so she didn’t go anymore bc of attraction being there. But then still sent her music on insta bc he “knows what she likes”

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Anonymous OP 2w

no my boyfriend doesn’t do anything like that with anyone and actually unfollowed her on social medias :( it sounds like your bf is just not a super loyal guy

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Anonymous OP 2w

I think a conversation about boundaries and what you are okay/not okay with (along with him sharing) is really important. That way it is now known what is or isn’t okay and if he continues then there is a different issue at hand

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Anonymous #3 2w

He was showing me a text message on his phone today and that’s when I saw a message from a girl cause he was scrolling down for awhile and I asked him who it was and then he told me they used to hook up and stuff. And I looked through the chat and there was a nude photo of her. This is when we weren’t official yet but basically we were bc he was with me everyday. It sucks bc now we have actually been dating for 3ish months..

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Anonymous OP 2w

he’s still messaging her…?

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Anonymous #1 2w

Not anymore. It was from before like right before he asked me to be his girlfriend then he stopped talking to her he said bc he asked me out. But I know he did snap her the other day bc she committed somewhere for soccer so he congratulated her or something

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Anonymous OP 2w

I normally would say this doesn’t matter tbh since he wasn’t official and it in general sounds like he’s over her but you should set very clear boundaries. I’m assuming you don’t want him messaging this girl right? You should def say something if this isn’t already a dealbreaker enough which lowkey i wouldn’t even blame you at this point

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Anonymous #3 2w

Yes I do not want him messaging her anymore. He knows I didn’t want him talking to her anymore. But he says well she was in my life and did nothing wrong and I knew this was important to her so I wanted to reach out. Seems like he’s just putting her feelings above mine atp. So yeah I don’t know, I felt like I was just being dramatic and crazy

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Anonymous OP 2w

That’s such a strange way to talk about it bro. This lowkey sounds like he doesn’t respect your feelings if that’s how he responded. And if he can’t see why it would be weird for him to do that, that’s also just childish. That’s really upsetting I’m sorry. Definitely put your safety and peace first

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