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This guy I’m talking to checks every single important box for me and treats me exactly how I want excepttttt for the fact that idk if I’m attracted to him.. should I give it a shot and maybe chemistry might develop or don’t risk it?

#poll

Yes give it a chance (f)

No don’t risk it (f)

Yes give it a chance (m)

No don’t risk it (m)

375 votes

Anonymous 4w

I’m M and I say give it a chance. Just see what you feel. But never get in a relationship if you aren’t attracted to them. It will become a problem later

Anonymous 4w

Have you considered if you’re not attracted to him BECAUSE he checks all of ur boxes?

Anonymous 4w

I say don’t.. but only because my friend tried this and never ended up developing that physical attraction and dated the poor dude for over a year… it was honestly really fucked up imo. why not just flirt and be in that stage and see if feelings develop before committing to something that will hurt him. Seems like you’re into it because he checks all the boxes and would make a good partner… unfortunately that’s not how attraction works

Anonymous 3w

I’m M and I say bad idea. This could come back to bite you in the long term

Anonymous 3w

Give it a chance. Happened to me and I ended up being really attracted to him.

Anonymous 3w

Why would you date someone you’re not attracted to?

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Anonymous

#1 4w

yeah true but how long of a chance tho?

Anonymous

OP 4w

Hmmm that depends. Is it physical attraction you lack or mental or both?

Anonymous

#1 4w

Just physical

Anonymous

OP 4w

Yeah you def gotta wait and see. I’d give it two or three dates. Im a dude but if I didn’t find a girl attractive I’d wait that long

Anonymous

#3 4w

No. the only reason why I’m thinking about a second date is bc we’re compatible and he’s husband material. Just not completely attracted to him (yet hopefully).

Anonymous

#1 4w

Appreciate the insight

Anonymous

#5 4w

My therapist said that in relationships like looks are certainly NOT everything but there has to be some level of physical attraction and if that never develops then the relationship might not feel fulfilling

Anonymous

#7 3w

how come?

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Anonymous

#6 3w

Admiration is a lot more powerful than attraction, having been in a relationship for a year now

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Anonymous

OP 3w

Dude go for it. I’m M and I didn’t start dating the girl I’m dating because she’s pretty. I admired qualities about her and developed intense feelings later. You got that

Anonymous

#8 3w

such an interesting take! Bc he’s probably the only guy I’ve truly admired yet

Anonymous

OP 3w

in my case I dated a girl for too long even though the spark was long gone and it wound up with a lot of resentment and a lot of time wasted for the both of us

Anonymous

#7 3w

Bc you weren’t attracted to her? Was that the reason?

Anonymous

OP 3w

Partially, but also there were some base mismatches of texting frequency (i’m a high volume texter vs she liked calls better) and general life preferences that put the final nail in the coffin. If you really like the guy then go for it, I mean you only live once 🤷‍♂️

Anonymous

#9 3w

I hope this will be the case, if so then he could be the one for me.