Anonymous #6 6w

Nothing morally wrong with sleeping with lots of people. But it’s incorrect to say that it’s made up, many men would lose interest in women with a high body count, not all of course.

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Anonymous #5 6w

and why would men lose interest? because we have all been socially conditioned to believe that a woman having “too much” sex (however we each may define it) is bad

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Anonymous #6 6w

Sex isn’t just something you randomly do. It’s an active choice you make to share that part of yourself with someone, whether it feels random or not. To feel comfortable in sharing that part of yourself with tons of people DOES say something about you. Good or bad, it says something. It’s not too much sex, but it’s hopping to another partner so swiftly. I want someone who commits, so I do use body count as a way to view their commitment.

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Anonymous #6 6w

Only bad people believe that a person is “damaged” if they have lots of casual sex, but in terms of finding a partner that’s an emotional choice. I personally would not seek out a relationship with that person, not because they are “broken” or something stupid, but because it doesn’t match what I feel attracted to in a partner. There will be plenty of men and women who are indifferent to a person having lots of casual partners, but others don’t find that attractive.

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Anonymous #5 6w

yeah my issue is when ppl shame or put down others for having had casual sex. i feel like our generation has kind of swung in a sex negative direction over the past couple years, which i think is related to the rise of conservatism, so i am just tired of seeing that everywhere

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Anonymous #7 6w

well yes it’s definitely not random, but the plain and simple number doesn’t tell a persons whole life story. maybe someone was hypersexual for a few years due to trauma. maybe they had a rough breakup and had a bit of a hoe phase before they were able to center themselves again. hell, maybe they were in a committed loving relationship for two years where they had group sex, so their body count had gone up though they were fully capable of committing. ppls lives can be crazy lol

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Anonymous #6 6w

that doesn’t mean that u HAVE to accept these things in a partner, but taking body count on its own doesn’t necessarily tell u everything abt them. love is not a finite resource, yknow? wishing u the best

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Anonymous #6 6w

There are a few reasons imo why people may choose to not be with a partner who is very experienced. There are more than this ofc.. -One reason that is cultural imo is that many men don’t have access to casual sex at all and this can lead to jealousy, which will lead to incompatibility. -Another reason could be what you mention, they are just parroting what some conservative influencers preach. -Another could be related to beliefs about sex in general. -Another could be tied to religious beliefs.

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Anonymous #5 6w

yeah, and ppl can ofc hold their own personal ideals for their partners, i’m not the boss of anyone lol. i just take issue when shame starts to get involved, and the way that women have historically been shamed for having sex means that a swing back in dialogues and attitudes abt sexuality doesn’t sit right with me. i’m also bi so my pov is different from a straight person. i think the world could benefit from ppl questioning their beliefs abt sex a little. have a good night :)

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