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OnlyPolls 3w
my bf of only like 2ish months got a girls # from the gym & they texted a few days & he finally said he has a gf but still would love to get to know her before they were gonna eat or go to beach. idk what to do.
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trust him/it’s ok
end it now
other ideas
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Anonymous 3w

I misclicked. Remove a vote from other ideas and add it to “end it”. Confront that boy because ain’t no damn way he was too casual about all that

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Anonymous 3w

Huge red flag, you deserve better

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Anonymous 3w

Did he tell you about this or did you find out on your own?

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Anonymous 3w

If he can’t communicate and ask your boundaries from the start, it might be better to move on

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Anonymous 3w

Ngl I’ve deadass heard this SAME exact story multiple times

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Anonymous 3w

You should definitely talk with him and ask him his intentions about it. It sounds like he could want to move on from you, but can’t be too sure. Would you say you guys have a happy, trusting relationship? Or is it more casual?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

I found out on my own

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I saw a text from her and then I looked at the messages

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

So I talked to him about it and he goes “I didn’t know that was a boundary of yours, I just wanted more friends” like UGH idk

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

That’s a good point, but relationships are all about repair imo. Just moving on without having a discussion in the first place kind of goes against the whole point. Unless your partner does something clearly awful of course, and the bad outweighs the good

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Very true! Repeated sus behavior, then yeah—end it. Conversation is good to have

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Yeah I would leave him. He wants to pursue her and keep her as a side piece. Why else would he not mention it if he thought it was nothing?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

He would not mention it because he thought it was nothing. If you thought something was nothing in your mind, you wouldn’t tell anyone either. Not saying it’s true, but it’s definitely possible OP’s boyfriend is just stupid and not aware of basic boundaries. That’s why I think they should talk first. No avoidance

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Again imo. Bare minimum he should’ve mentioned that he sought out to make a new friend and should have at the very least told you about this new friend he met. BARE MINIMUM. Do whatever you want with that opinion of mine

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