Not in an ‘asking permission’ way, but in a kind ‘heads up I’m planning on making this decision’ way

55

I hate this tradition, it’s fine in the heads up way people are saying tho. But it’s based in basically ownership being passed down from father to husband. Someone doesn’t need my dads permission to marry me, they just need my permission

36

Nah my dad & I aren’t close enough for that- but I wouldn’t mind if he gave my parents a heads up

15

My fiancé didn’t, but my dad kinda drunkenly told him to hurry up so that was effectively him giving “permission”. Tbf though I’m not close with my dad at all so I wouldn’t have wanted my fiancé to ask anyway. We’re about to get married this week without his knowledge as well 😅

11

I’d ask but I’d still do it if he said no

9

no. im not an object that a man needs permission to take

9

My dad don’t care

6

I’d hope by the time I was ready to propose, my partner’s parents would already be aware that it’s gonna happen soon. And I’d invite them to actively be apart of the proposal.

4

Ask my mom and he did 🥹

4

I don't mind. I'm not that close to my family though so I wouldn't expect her to do like an equivalent thing for me

3

As a guy, I understand the importance of it, especially if she has good and caring parents. In the traditional sense, it’s a signal for the father to take a step back and let the future husband handle things. For the past however many years, the father has been the “protector” and “provider” of his daughter, and now it’s time for someone else he hopefully trusts to take on that responsibility. But nowadays it’s more just a sign of respect and a nice gesture (unless the dad says no 💀)

1

Girlfriend has no dad 🙏

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