OCD on Sidechat | i think i may be using sex to reassure myself that i’m a good partner, i’ll initiate sex when i’m having anxieties, even when i don’t actually want sex or won’t enjoy it, because if i make him feel good then the anxious thoughts go away for a bit

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OCD 7w

i think i may be using sex to reassure myself that i’m a good partner, i’ll initiate sex when i’m having anxieties, even when i don’t actually want sex or won’t enjoy it, because if i make him feel good then the anxious thoughts go away for a bit

Anonymous 7w

rocd is hell im so sorry :(

Anonymous 7w

As a guy who’s ex did this, PLEASE do not feel like you need to use your body to keep him around. My ex was SA’ed at a young age and would initiate sex sometimes when they didn’t feel like it. Sometimes I could tell they weren’t into it and asked if they wanted to stop, sometimes they did but often they didn’t. I never once for them to finish, (NOT BECAUSE I WAS BAD) but because they were so genuinely not in the mood, or they would have flashbacks of what happened to them when they were small.

Anonymous

#3 7w

And they were really good at hiding their emotions, so whenever we did it I would ask like 400 times before we actually did anything, because I was so paranoid that if they told me they wanted to have sex but deep down they didn’t,

Anonymous

#3 7w

I convinced myself I was a r4pist and deadass started vomiting 😭. Point being, a good man won’t care about sex enough to have it as often as 2-3 times a week. A good man would MUCH rather be your pleaser than to have you please them.

Anonymous

#3 7w

Oh! Also, I’m not saying YOUR man will do what I did, I just have the most brutal intrusive thoughts and over active imagination so I lowkey got off track and had to steer back lmao.