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Non-binary Talk 7w
I’m trying to understand non-binary so forgive my stupid question but is it the same as asexual?
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Anonymous 7w

nonbinary is you are neither solidly a man nor a woman (something in between or possibly both or neither) asexual is you arent sexually attracted to people

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Anonymous 7w

Gender is not sexuality, gender is what you feel you are and sexuality is who you are (or aren’t) attracted to

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Anonymous 7w

As a nonbinary person, I just don’t identify as a man or woman. I am just me. I do things that could be considered “girly” and things that are “for boys” but that doesn’t make me more of a man or woman. Idk if that helps—

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

So you can be both but they aren’t necessarily connected?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

yes

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

yay thank you for specifically including “both” under nonbinary 💖

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

At this point, it all helps. I’m just trying to get a better understanding.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

So if gender is what you feel and sexuality is what you’re attracted to do not recognize your actual sex anymore? Your biology and genitalia become irrelevant at some point? 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

You’re welcome!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

genetalia and biology arent how you would know if you are attracted to someone, right? you can be attracted to someone who appears feminine without knowing their actual biology or genitalia

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

I understand that part but at some point genitals become irrelevant then right? Or am I confused still?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

gender is a social construct that evolved as a way to distinguish what genetalia one might have based on how one presents themselves, mainly through secondary sex characteristics (breasts, facial hair) to know who to be attracted to, but also through behavior and other social aspects

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

if you think about it in terms of other animals, birds might not be able to control their coloration which can drive attraction, but any bird can initiate a mating call for courtship, regardless of what genitals they have, even if for example female birds usually do it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

with gender being a combination of how you are socially perceived and biological factors that can be altered through technology, the connection between genitals and gender are able to be severed, to whatever degree someone wants it to be

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

with intersex people, the connection is severed at birth, where the range of ways genitals and secondary sexual characteristics can develop leaves them unable to be defined as as just "male or female"

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