Non-binary Talk on Sidechat | Wondering if maybe i’m nonbinary but it’s really confusing. Any advice? Sometimes i get gender dysphoria from my afab body, and other times i actually like it and feel pretty. But most of the time i just don’t feel attachment to the idea of gender at all

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Non-binary Talk 5w

Wondering if maybe i’m nonbinary but it’s really confusing. Any advice? Sometimes i get gender dysphoria from my afab body, and other times i actually like it and feel pretty. But most of the time i just don’t feel attachment to the idea of gender at all

Anonymous 5w

i feel very similar and i identify as nonbinary! the fact that you said you don't feel attachment to gender is enough to justify (not the right word but) being nonbinary. there's no one way to be nonbinary, so dysphoria or not, if you feel like the nonbinary label fits you, you can use it :)

Anonymous 5w

But bc i feel genderless most of the time, things like being called a woman make feel really uncomfortable

Anonymous 5w

I’ve gotten to the point where I describe my gender as it’s like I co-evolved into a woman but I’m not actually a woman I’m some mysterious other thing but for all intents and purposes, woman is close enough. But like I would really love smaller boobs so I can feel better about my body and sometimes I intentionally try to act more masculine and all that and I do not feel like I fit properly into the category of woman.

Anonymous 4w

I think it depends person to person. for me i kinda dislike gender as a concept ?? and would prefer it disappears , but like gender is also very validating for our trans siblings, so i kinda like non binary as just like foremost being a person before anything else. it just feels right. but then i also don’t mind my masculinity every once in a while. it’s weird and complicated but it works so much better than any other way i’ve described myself

Anonymous 5w

And then maybe the dysphoria is just all bc of trauma and i need to learn to be happy being female idk 😭

Anonymous 4w

Enby amab- for me, the gender dysphoria is not related much to my body, just how people perceive my personality to be based off of my body. It’s all very different to everyone and at the end of the day, you are whatever label you feel is right to you. You don’t need to fit this or that predetermined box of nonbinaryness to be nonbinary. Just live ur truth diva.

Anonymous 2w

I also feel similar and identify as nonbinary. I used to debate if I was enby and I had long hair. Then I chopped it off. Suddenly I was like yeah I’m not just debating if I’m enby now, I am. Not saying you should chop your hair off… but play with clothing styles, makeup, jewelry, etc. See how you feel

Anonymous

OP 5w

I totally relate to this and your first post. I never really felt like I had a gender even when I was young. Then I got older and sort of just flowed with women because that’s how people see me but never really feeling an attachment to it. Now I feel no gender. I think this is very much nonbinary!

Anonymous

#4 5w

Also tho you don’t have to have a specific name for your gender. Like the closest label I’ve found for me is demigirl but I don’t feel that quite fits either. And there’s no criteria to describe yourself as nonbinary. I personally don’t really feel I fit into nonbinary either because I do identify with woman quite a bit. I usually just pick between woman or nonbinary based on what I think fits the scenario.

Anonymous

#4 5w

There is also no criteria you have to reach to do things you feel may be gender-affirming or just make you feel good generally. Like I wear a binder sometimes and use she/they pronouns and try to keep my hair more androgynous. You can just do the things you want then decide if it means something about your identity later.

Anonymous

OP 5w

Whether it’s all trauma or body issues or whatever or not that’s no reason not to do something about it. If you think you might sometimes feel dysphoric about your boobs why not try a binder and see how you feel about it. Theres plenty of completely temporary ways to respond to gender dysphoria to see how you feel about it. Like even just trying men’s fashion and manspreading or trying new pronouns. Also whether or not it’s caused by trauma does not change that you are experiencing it now.