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I know this probably the wrong place to ask but does anyone here wanna tell me how they lost their virginity? I’m a 21 year old virgin autistic man and I keep hearing neurotypical ppl talk abt sex and I can’t help but feel sad. I want possible reassurance
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Anonymous 1d

I’m also autistic and I just pretended I had already lost it when I met new people and eventually someone just liked me lmao

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Anonymous 1d

I lost mine to my bf after graduating high school. It was a sort of “get it over with” experience for me as a woman because I knew it was going to hurt like hell no matter what (and I was right)

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Anonymous 1d

i’m 23 and still a virgin. i decided not to care about sex and if i get a partner who judges me for it, then i know they’re not for me and don’t deserve to be my first. i just don’t think about it ever

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Anonymous 1d

I lost mine in January (I’m 21 rn) to a friend after we had been fooling around w/o penetration for a couple of months

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Anonymous 1d

I just did a random hookup tbh. we met online, made sure we were both on the same page, and I think we talked for about two weeks first. I really should've been a lot safer though, such as meeting in person first and finding someone my own age instead, but I was 18 and depressed lol

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Anonymous 11h

I didn’t feel safe with any of my first few partners, I’m 20 now and just found someone wonderful, but if I hadn’t met them I’d wait as long as it takes, sex isn’t everything and you don’t have to tell anyone whether or not you’re a virgin (unless you are about to have sex bc they will be able to tell)

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Anonymous 9h

20, freshman year of college, met at a bar (both using fakes) and dated for 3 months. She was left behind by her friends and I walked her home cause her dorm was near mine. Happened about a month later. Was a good experience and learned a lot, she did kinda expect traditional gender roles which I wasn’t a huge fan of. As in guy initiates and plans all the time and stuff like that. I think it was just what she was used to though and we could have worked on it but then summer came and split us up.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Wdym, like when trying to find someone to lose it with? And then you had to reveal that you lied to them?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I never revealed it to the person I lost it to before we ended up breaking up for other reasons anyways, I didn’t really view my first time as a big deal because I figured it would be the first of many, so what’s it really matter?

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 10h

my first partner wasn’t able to tell but that’s because I’m a studious mf who looked at a diagram of a vulva before I went down on her so I knew what I was doing lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 9h

She never asked about virginity beforehand but I would have been honest if she did. When I told her after her response was “score” lol

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