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I’m being so serious and I realize this is extremely pathetic, but I’ve never dated and I don’t think I could task switch between being a student and being a socializer or girlfriend 💀 like, I can only focus on being a student and nothing else. Advice?
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Anonymous 2w

No same, I think about this a lot. I mean I’m also on the ace spectrum, but in moments where I wish I had somebody, it’s often followed by thinking I wouldn’t even know how to balance it anyway

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Anonymous 2w

Just prioritize what you want first. If you can’t handle being a student and being a partner then don’t. At least not yet. Until you feel like you can balance your own time and student life, just don’t try it yet.

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Anonymous 2w

You’ve gotta get out of the house more unfortunately. It’s kind of like associating areas of your house with homework and your bed for sleeping, you’ve gotta create a time, activity, or place you associate with socializing.

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Anonymous 1w

You just need a better work-life balance, have set times for being a student and set times for being social (I’m not allowed to touch schoolwork on Sundays or after 8pm)

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Anonymous 2w

At least you know what you’re capable of. And you’re not always going to be a student. Lock in on your education then you can focus on that other aspect of your life after. You have so much time :)

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Anonymous 1w

Practise makes perfect.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Btw what I meant by “feeling like you can balance your own time and student life” is an indicator that you might feel ready

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

holy noodles we the same person??? I was about to make a comment that was basically just this

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

I’m ace spectrum too! Your comment is me to a T 😂 I’m glad I’m not the only one feeling like this. You really get it 💕

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

It’s definitely hard. My first semester dating in college my grades CRASHED because I was focused on spending time with him. After I got a C I told him I needed to put school first and he could have any extra time I had.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

Sorry didn’t mean to respond to you lol.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1w

Brit 😭

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