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Just learned that sperm banks refuse donors with neurological disorders (ADHD/Autism/Dyslexia/etc)… As a lesbian I’ve always wanted a kid with the other half of DNA to match my partner (always neurodivergent too) This is blatant eugenics.
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Anonymous 17h

it's a USA requirement, but you might still be able to do a known donor situation if you're comfortable getting a lawyer to take care of the legal steps a sperm bank usually does

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Anonymous 17h

What the fuck

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Anonymous 15h

That’s donating which yes is true and it’s a problem, but different rules apply to being a recipient which I’m assuming your partner is going to be a recipient, so then what’s the problem there?

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Anonymous 12h

Holy fuck these comments did not pass the vibe check

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Anonymous 9h

God fucking damn it is that why I got rejected?? Shit sucks bro

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Anonymous 14h

why would you want to make your kid suffer by giving him mental disorders

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Anonymous 13h

oh.

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Anonymous 13h

I guess I’m out.

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Anonymous 14h

What if you have a neurodivergent child that ultimately ends up depressed or suicidal from not fitting in society?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 13h

You mean the same risks anyone else has when they have kids?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13h

Why do you classify all mental disorders as suffering?

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

not as high of risk, they’re intentionally going out of there way to give them disorders

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13h

That depends a LOT on the parents on what the risk factor is. So no the risk isn’t actually that much different. And again having a disorder is not inherently a bad thing

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

becuase they are? they make it harder to function in society, whether you have to try harder for a social life or try harder to talk to people. they make life harder

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

i bet that 90% of people when asked if they would rather be cured of their illness or stay the same would cure it on the spot

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13h

For a lot of them it’s more accurate to say society makes it harder for them to function. It’s a different way the brain can be wired, not a sickness. And frequently can actually be a benefit there’s a reason people in higher education have higher rates of neurodivergence. You’re just advocating for eugenics for the sake of a made up idea of convenience

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

I understand that. But a lifetime of being socially ostracized leads to significantly higher chances of depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13h

Not an illness. And your baseless bets mean nothing this is an appeal to popularity. Yknow, a fallacy

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 13h

And people not going to a sperm bank run the same chances. So why aren’t we talking about how absurd it is that people are just having kids without the sperm banks deciding which kids get to exist?

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

it’s not a “made up idea.” i’ve seen people take their lives or become shut ins due to their illnesses. obviously there are some people who can function with it, like every illness. just because you like ur adhd cause you think it makes you quirky doesn’t mean everyone else does. i think sperm banks should have the best sperm quality, why would you want a kid to suffer. if that makes me pro-eugenics than sure

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13h

Except frequently it’s not actually about their neurodivergence. It’s how they’re treated because of it. For example sick fucks like you calling people ill because their head doesn’t work like yours. Or again YOU using stereotypes to demean people based on their neurodivergence or even just perceived neurodivergence. Instead of asking better of society you want to treat people like dogs. That’s pathetic and you have no real defense for it outside of your feelings and your “bets”

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

it’s called a mental ILLNESS. so it is not wrong to call them ill. its not like people treat them a way because they are neurodivergent, they treat them a way because of how their mental illness affects their actions. it is harder for people with mental illnesses to act “normal” in a society. yes it is partially the NT’s fault, but they are just reacting in a way that IS the normal reaction. you are acting like i am hitler or the antichrist for wanting the best life for all children

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13h

No it isn’t, the term mental illness has been phased out for years in favor of mental disorder and even that one is being slowly phased out for the same reason mental illness was phased out. Because these people are not inherently sick. You’re dunning kreugering yourself and frankly you should stop before you embarrass yourself more.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13h

And neurotypicals do not exist because there is no “normal” way for the brain to work. There are the socially accepted ways but those aren’t inherently better or normal to claim they are is an appeal to authority, another fallacy. You do not know enough about what you’re talking about.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

I really don’t care to be honest, you are being cruel to the children. Making it purposely harder for someone to properly function in society is cruel. I hope you are sterile

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

I understand that you probably mean everything in good faith. But it’s not as much about deciding “who gets to exist”, as much as it’s about knowing firsthand how shitty life is as a neurodivergent guy, and not wanting to subject my potential future offspring to the same fate

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13h

Says the eugenicist. You want a cruel society and you blame neurodivergent people for existing in it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 13h

That is not for a sperm bank to decide. Your choice in donor should be without the oversight of these clinics they are there to give you the choice not to control the choice.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

I don’t blame them for being the way they are. I just think someone with a lot of mental disorders should not intentionally pass them on to their children

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13h

Same logic racists used to sterilize black people btw. I want a world that won’t punish people for being different. You want to make sure different doesn’t exist.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

Then go find a partner to have children with instead if sperm banks are evil

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13h

Go find a different dick to get on and get off mine bro.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

I mean society would function better that way but i never called for that to happen

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

Ok supersperg

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13h

Well I think society would function better if people like you didn’t exist. Mostly because it would. But also because you’re an asshole

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13h

Go back to the 50s and find a wife to beat

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

Would be a much better life

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13h

👍🏻

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 12h

It’s not tho lmao. Disorder, sure, but not “mental illness.” Also fascinating how fast you went from “the neurodivergent themselves will suffer from their neurodivergence, I want the best life for all children” to “society would function better without those mentally ill freaks” 🤔🤔

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 12h

What if you, knowing the child has a higher chance of neurodivergence, are able to give them the extra support they need to thrive?

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 11h

I’d go above and beyond to make sure they thrive, if I was in that situation. But I can’t fully control how the outside world treats them, or how that will impact them psychologically

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 9h

I'm assuming OP meant that they wanted to be the recipient, and for the donor to be similar to their partner in as many ways as possible

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