i think it’s just a preference. we want what we want no big deal

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You’re entitled to choose your romantic partners based on any criteria you want, you’re never obligated to want a relationship with somebody

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I do also have debilitating adhd and already it’s hard to talk with my family that has a lot of really bad anxiety and repressed traumas and since I’m the oldest I always end up mediating and serving as a therapist bc my parents are immigrants so they don’t trust therapy and we also can’t afford it. My sibling who I’m close with has trouble with social and communication and ends up in a lot of misunderstandings I’m always the one that needs to explain and reassure at all times of the day/night

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everyone has a preference and it’s not unreasonable to avoid dating someone with those issues. i’m autistic but i do not get along with most other autistic people so i steer clear of them in my dating life. doesn’t make me ableist, it makes me incompatible with them and saving us both the trouble.

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Im so exhausted and just don’t think I can also date someone who suffers from these illnesses, I don’t want someone to dump on either since I think I’m good at coping generally and have a high tolerance but I just don’t want my emotional workload to go up either. I hope y’all understand where I’m coming from

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It’s not ableist to not want to date someone you’d be unable to support. It wouldn’t be fair to you or to them. What would be ableist is to say that a disabled person can’t or shouldn’t date at all.

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