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Neurodivergent 2w
Kind of embarrassed to say I genuinely have a hyperfixation on proship discourse itself. I genuinely crave a nuanced discussion so bad but it’s such an emotionally charged issue no one is willing to have one
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Anonymous 2w

i SO Get It 😭 not sure if i’ve commented this on one of your posts before, but that stuff used to cause me legitimate distress because of how inconsistent the “pro-ship” / “antis” definitions tend to be and cause i felt like i was under a ton of pressure to “pick a side” when imo it’s just not that simple. it was a huge relief when my at-the-time gf gently pointed out to me that i’m free to refuse to couch my relationship to art / fiction in those terms and to opt out of that binary entirely

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Anonymous 2w

I feel like it’s sort of simple though like fine shipping is pretty normal just don’t be a weirdo about it

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

I get it 😭 at the moment I’m in “proship” communities because I honestly feel safer there but it’s also SO risky labeling yourself as that

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

cause yeah, it’s such a delicate and complex conversation that ultimately i do understand why people get so upset that they can’t discuss it publicly without going down a rage spiral and assuming the worst of other people. i went through a phase like that once too, hypervigilant & paranoid about what consuming certain fiction must say about other people. but eventually i had to recognize that i was being a huge hypocrite and needed to like… figure my shit out

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

yeah exactly, like for instance when people say “proship DNI” i tend to just figure that applies to people like me regardless and i heed that as a boundary, but there’s no way in hell i’m using that term to self-describe in public when i have no control over the extremely bad-faith ways some people interpret it

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