Neurodivergent on Sidechat | coming from an autistic girly, how do i get my adhd roomie to remember to pick up after themself (trash, food, random clutter, clothes, etc.)?

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Neurodivergent 15h

coming from an autistic girly, how do i get my adhd roomie to remember to pick up after themself (trash, food, random clutter, clothes, etc.)?

Anonymous 14h

Maybe just ask them to pick up one thing at a time, like, “hey can you pick up the food” until they do, then “hey can you put away your clothes” then idk

Anonymous

#1 14h

that’s kinda what i do but i feel bad cause it’s just me asking them to do so many things

Anonymous

OP 14h

I get that, and ik at a certain point the answer is talk to your RA but also like. That can just make it worse bc then resentment will build up anyway. Idk how well you know they’re schedule or plans or whatever but what if you try and frame it as smth you can do together? Like, “hey, what if we have a cleaning day on Saturday?”, might help to make sure you have stuff to pick up and clean up on your side of the room too to justify it without singling them out.

Anonymous

OP 14h

Or if you ever have a friend over to visit even to stop in for a few minutes, you can let them know ahead of time that the dorm needs to be clean-ish and it might be the motivating push they need every so often to at least do a surface level tidy

Anonymous

#1 14h

we’re in an apt lmao sry for the confusion

Anonymous

OP 14h

Ohhh I totally get that, still even in common spaces if you have someone over you can at least get them to move their clutter into their own room