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Anonymous 18w

Deadass it’s literally to the point where I’ve missed out on potential friends and interesting conversations cause I absolutely will not join unless I’m 100% invited. I also hate open invitations cause I’ll gaslight myself into thinking they don’t actually want me there cause of how many times I actually wasn’t invited somewhere and misinterpreted that I was

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Anonymous 18w

This is how I’m describing my social tendencies from now on omg 😂

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18w

Literally that last bit is so important. It’s the fact that there have been so many instances where i misinterpreted I now don’t trust anything unless it’s extremely direct or straightforward otherwise I assume the plans are off lmfao

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18w

omggg i literally lost “friends” bc they were talking about going somewhere in front of me and they said “we should go to the movies”… they meant everyone but me, but i thought i was included so i asked “what movie are we watching?” and got berated… it was literally 6 years ago, but that stops me from saying anything unless im properly invited cuz it was such a horrible experience

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 18w

Omg that’s so shitty wtf. I also hate when people make plans in front of me too cause unless they explicitly ask me to come, I assume I’m not invited. I didn’t quite have the same experience cause my “friends” let me come with but it was so clear they wished I wasn’t there.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18w

i always ask because there were countless times that plans were made in front of me that i wasn’t invited to, but someone i was friends with a couple years ago said the asking was annoying because it was implied i was invited 🙃 you can never win

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 18w

Nah see I’d be throwing hands at that cause how is someone gonna be mad at /you/ for clarifying if you’re invited or not when they’re the ones making plans in front of you????

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