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Neurodivergent 1d
Does anyone else repeat what they say 2+ times until they get verbal confirmation that anyone heard them? Idk if it’s cause I’m used to not being heard/listened to in group settings but I feel like it annoys my friends despite them rarely seeming annoyed
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Anonymous 1d

I got to the stage where I now roll with confidence, if they didn’t hear it, that’s their loss.

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Anonymous 1d

I think it drives my fiance crazy but I also overthink a lot

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Anonymous 1d

I do this all the time I hate when I say something and it’s not acknowledged

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Anonymous 21h

and then they hit you with "i heard you" how was i supposed to know that you didn't give any verbal or even nonverbal response

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Anonymous 6h

Why does this happen? I’ve noticed this too

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Anonymous 17h

I usually say hello? I’m not wasting my breath if you aren’t paying attention.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

I aspire to reach this stage

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 23h

i did this and realized they were actually just ignoring me

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 22h

Real shit, do this with everyone. Tells you where you’re valued and who you’re valued by.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 20h

Real asf and the “is buddy a Pokémon” shit like JUST SAY OK OR SOMETHING DAMN

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 20h

Issue is everyone (friends, parents, non friends, professors/teachers) do this to me and I have no idea why

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

I realized a while ago that my tone was what made people dismiss me. I was direct in my communication, my eye contact wasn’t strong, and my body language gave off this aura of insecurity. I didn’t value myself or my own word, so it made sense that no one else around me did. I wasn’t secure in myself. Among other things, it’s a confidence issue, a very deep one at least in my experience.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

Once I started changing my body language, putting more base in my voice and being more assertive, comfortable with myself, the way I spoke and my opinions, I became more confident in myself and people responded. People respond to and respect confidence.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

Also my tone was light, like I was unsure of myself or afraid of what the other person would say. Walking on eggshells to keep the peace and please. Effect: People started to get annoyed by my unsureness, they got dismissive because they didn’t respect my timidness, or they got dismissive because I didn’t assert myself enough to exist within their mental periphery. Seriously, I changed and people started talking to me like they just noticed me, even though I was there the whole time.

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