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i think sometimes we make too many excuses for ourselves when it comes to socializing. too many ppl complain that neurotypicals don’t like when you relate with your own experiences but really i think you guys just need to learn how to communicate. like u-
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Anonymous 19h

can relate but really everyone needs to learn a conversation goes both ways. if you spend the whole time you’re talking to someone, just talking about yourself, it gets old fast. seriously its like some of yall were never taught to be cordial and at least pretend to be interested in what someone is talking about. but like yeah, it is harder to communicate for us, but that just means we have to put in more effort and remember to also ask others about themselves, instead of just complaining and

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Anonymous 19h

big agree. i just spent 28 hours in a work training that can basically be summed up to “effective communication means two people are considerate of each others needs”. everyone is responsible for communicating their needs and making a genuine effort to make it accessible

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Anonymous 16h

It’s both, I think. Yes, it can be harder for us to socialize with neurotypical people, and masking sucks, AND we need to practice polite and cordial conversation and awareness to ensure everyone gets to speak and be heard. Neurotypicals should also be trying to do that too. As others here said, communication and conversation are a two-way street, so all parties involved should be trying to make it minimally unpleasant.

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Anonymous 17h

The root issue is treating socializing like something people HAVE to get better at. Conversations will inherently feel unpleasant if they are obligatory. people pick up on that. I've NEVER seen a post treat it as anything other than a fucking homework assignment.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

pitying ourselves! i promise you other people want to talk about themselves too

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19h

communication is a two way street and you will never stop compromising because that’s how life works. using ND or mental illness as an excuse to keep yourself trapped in your behavior just makes your own life worse for no reason

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

exactlyyy like its literally that “omg you people cant do anything” post

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