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Trying to get into a relationship as a gay, transgender, neurodivergent person is genuinely like trying to fight a bear and a moose while balancing on a log heading towards Niagara Falls
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Anonymous 7w

Not diminishing your struggle, but having grown up in Alaska do NOT fight a moose. You will not win

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Anonymous 7w

Real

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Anonymous 7w

tragic that I finally got past all of this & was in a wonderful t4t relationship just to realize I was aroace 😭 because ofc it’s only when I get great at relationships that I find out they’re not for me

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Anonymous 7w

I mean this in a kind way, if you are a good person it won’t be as hard as you think

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Anonymous 7w

that's why you gotta find another gay, trans, neurodivergent person 🙂‍↕️

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Anonymous 7w

No FRRRR

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Anonymous 7w

My partner is gay trans and nd 😭😭

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Anonymous 7w

Trying as a ADHD straight white women is hard … I’m sorry for your struggle as well :(

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

What about that guy on YouTube that scared away a moose by raising a stick above his head like a spear and making caveman noises

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 7w

…oh come ON

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Anonymous 7w

i’m also catholic and want to mary another catholic and have children i literally objectively have it worse than you and i don’t do this victim mindset thing. many times when people do it they’re obscuring some other unattractive part of themself. obviously not always but there is people who will date you so introspect and become a better person and take accountability and eventually success becomes inevitable

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Anonymous 7w

how is that relevant to the post

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 7w

“Victim mindset” and it’s just someone making a vent post on yikyak about struggling to find a relationship 😭 Get a life

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Anonymous 7w

What do you mean by that?

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 7w

all that yapping about how much Literally Objectively Worse you have it as a catholic who wants to follow the default mainstream social script, just to follow it up with “and I don’t do this victim mindset thing” lmaooooo

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 7w

why downvote her? she’s neurodivergent on a neurodivergent sub?

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Anonymous replying to -> #15 7w

the white/straight part made it sound like she thought either of those traits made it harder to date… likely not what she meant, but that’s how it comes off. just saying it’s hard as a woman with ADHD would’ve been enough 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

Honestly acting like ADHD itself is some enormous roadblock for dating is pretty pick me, this is coming from someone with ADHD and ASD. ADHD is pretty well understood and commonplace now.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

especially cause someone who’s gay & trans is subjected to marginalization for both these aspects of their identity, while someone who’s white & straight is Not oppressed for either of those aspects of their own identity

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 7w

ADHD is known for having zero struggles whatsoever in the realm of relationships

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Anonymous replying to -> #16 7w

well maybe not for everyone? but i have 2 friends with very severe adhd and it makes social interactions including dating extremely difficult, it affects every aspects of their lives and personality, i dont understand how you can say it causes zero struggles

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 7w

??? being neurodivergent IS a roadblock for dating though? difficulty with social interactions and social norms is a big part of neurodiversity idk

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Anonymous replying to -> #15 7w

I was being sarcastic in response to #7

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Anonymous replying to -> #16 7w

oh. oh my god. i am so sorry. i am autistic

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