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Neurodivergent 4w

i’m on suspension from my university because i failed all of my classes last semester and how do i explain that i was depressed and am depressed and was unmedicated (which was something I could’ve fixed!) and

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Anonymous 4w

First of all, ask yourself if “I could’ve fixed” is true. Secondly, look into doing a retro-active medical withdrawal from the semester and see if the rules fit your situation. It won’t get your tuition back, but it may save your GPA.

Anonymous 4w

sorry i’m normally pretty positive (on anon because this is terrifying to admit, but my account is generally cheery!) it’s just i need to vent and not only am i terrified of telling my folks i’m also terrified of telling my irls (who are kind and good to me but dear lord i can’t even justify this to myself-)

Anonymous 4w

my school allowed for withdrawal in cases like this, if you have a diagnosis/multiple diagnoses that might be something to consider, but talking with the disability people there might help you figure all of that out if it’s possible, or form a plan for the future. i had to take reduced classes (3-4 a semester) because of my mental health and i still failed multiple ngl, i hope you’re doing better now 🫂

Anonymous 4w

I hate it say it but colleges don’t really care. It’s not like grade school that’s mandatory. You pay to be there and they expect you to be doing everything in your power to be going to classes and getting good grades and doing your best. You should’ve gotten medicated sooner and been in therapy and done damage control sooner.

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OP 4w

like good lord this is horrible i hate that my actions have led me here but the odds are bleak and it is so difficult to try to think of a way out

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OP 4w

i was supposed to be over this shit. i failed classes in high school. i passed classes in college. i was supposed to be over this

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#2 4w

ah yes they should’ve simply gotten medicated and been in therapy and fixed themselves up quickly. something that’s notoriously simple and easy for people suffering from crippling disabilities

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#3 4w

I have severe disabilities that takes a team to manage. But before the year even started I worked with multiple professionals to implement ways to make this easier for me to bear while things got bad. It’s all about what you do before things get too hard to handle so that you can succeed.

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notyourprofsprof 4w

<3 tysm for this. i suspect i wont be able to do a retroactive withdrawal (withdrawal requests seem to be needed a bit before the semester ends + i haven’t been urgently hospitalized during the semester which might be the only way to convince them to allow a fully retroactive one)

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OP 4w

i’ll try to keep in mind the “is this something i could’ve fixed?” thing today and also in the future! genuinely thank you for this response bc i’d forgotten to give myself space to breathe while tangled in the anxiety

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#2 4w

i’ll try to keep this in mind for the future, thank you for offering what advice you can!

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OP 4w

Of course. I know it’s not super helpful but remembering that you’re doing the best you can at any given minute helps me. Sometimes I’ll beat myself up when I’m really depressed and struggling but remembering that helps a little. And make sure that you talk with the department of accessibility services about certain implements that can be used in classes to get a hold on things

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OP 4w

You were in the middle of a bad situation, a notoriously poor vantage point, with sapped motivation. People with invisible disabilities deserve support, too. Make sure that you aren’t confusing the normal withdrawal rules from a medical one. It may help to request a letter from your doctor that vaguely explains the reason. In any case, you will likely also need an advocate inside the bureaucracy. Talk to your academic advisor or a trusted professor.

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OP 3w

Progress is not going to always be linear please take it easy on yourself 🫶🫶 And remember it’s not about how you fell, but it’s how you get back up again that counts stay strong and good luck 🍀🍀