Neurodivergent on Sidechat | For my touch evasive/aversive AuDHD how do you maintain relationships? Sometimes I just don’t want to be touched. And rarely want to be intimate (like once a month or once every few months) and sometimes that causes issues in my relationship.

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Neurodivergent 2w

For my touch evasive/aversive AuDHD how do you maintain relationships? Sometimes I just don’t want to be touched. And rarely want to be intimate (like once a month or once every few months) and sometimes that causes issues in my relationship.

Anonymous 2w

sometimes it’s all about compromise. there are things that i do for my s/o that i don’t get satisfaction from, or find a little uncomfortable, but i do it because i love them and know it means something to them. i hate being touched. but the occasional discomfort is worth it to me

Anonymous 2w

He’s not mad at me for it and gets it. But I also feel guilty I can’t meet his physical needs without compromising my own. We talked and he knew about this before we started dating (1.5 year ago).

Anonymous

#1 2w

but that doesn’t have to be you. some people can’t compromise on that, and that’s okay. you can ask if there’s anything you can do for him that doesn’t involve touching. it can be silly but hey its worth it

Anonymous

#1 2w

He usually goes and helps himself. He’s very communicative with me about when - even that makes me uncomfortable tbh. I’m not sure if I’m sex aversive asexual or what I even fall into. I recently tried a BC that completely wiped out ANY want to do stuff & once off it I did feel like doing stuff occasionally again but most of the time sex itself or masturbation is just gross to me. I have occasionally given in when he’s asked (never more than once and no pestering about it) & I wasn’t interested