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Neurodivergent 14w
2184 upvotes, 17 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in Neurodivergent.
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Anonymous 14w

i’m in this post and i don’t like it

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Anonymous 14w

Sometimes I feel so bad for doing this but then my bestie reminds me that that’s how conversations work and if the person on the receiving end gets offended they never wanted advice or empathy 🤣🤗, but we be listen tho for sure.

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Anonymous 14w

This is an ADHD thing?? (🙂‍↕️)

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Anonymous 14w

I have to try SO hard not to do this because I am literally just trying to empathize and continue the conversation in a way I know how, but I didn’t realize it looked like I was “making it all about me” until someone called me an asshole :(

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Anonymous 14w

Lowkey I let them finish but then I forget what I was gonna say

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Anonymous 14w

Right? I was so weirded out by this revelation.

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Anonymous 14w

I don’t know of any other way to empathize. I’m working on it and recognizing it in myself, because I do this a LOT. I just listen to the whole thing, nod, and say I’m sorry now. I get so lost with social queues 🙃

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Anonymous 13w

Yup… I feel like if I’m not responding I’m not paying attention properly. Trying to move towards vigorous nods and sympathetic noises but the impulse share how I relate is strong.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 14w

Very true! There are some times though that I’m concentrating so hard on not interrupting them that I completely forget to listen to what they’re actually saying 😭😭 it’s actually quite a problem

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 14w

Just don’t do it every time bc then it just becomes us talking about ourselves!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

Can be but some people are just genuinely rude and have no active listening skills so you have to watch for that in yourself and others as well.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 14w

Omg yessss I hate when this happens 😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 14w

That shows you have better active listening skills actually but yeah it’s annoying 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

So real

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 13w

Some people aren’t venting for advice, they just want to be heard, and interrupting someone in the middle of a story to tell your own story is not just “how conversations work”

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 13w

Reading advice on active listening has helped me a lot to be better with this

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 13w

You can also respond by asking questions about their story for more details

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