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I was just bullied on my college Yik yak and I feel horrible. I feel like it’s my fault. I try so hard to be a good person. Am I a good person? They all know who I am bc it’s a small school and I have a service dog. They apparently rage baited me
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Anonymous 1d

I didn’t know I was being rage baited and bc of my sense of justice, I kept engaging in the conversation which was about disability rights. I am passionate about that, but they said I was ableist and classist for saying that esas shouldn’t be allowed in non pet friendly buildings

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Anonymous 1d

Jfc, 3 blocked me

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Anonymous 1d

So although it sucks that happened to your dog that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be allowed. If I didn’t have my ESA because the building “was non pet friendly” I’d genuinely have anxiety attacks and ptsd triggers. And if that’s the case your dog shouldn’t be allowed either service dog or not. (This is isn’t to attack you but look at it from that perspective) Esas already get a bad rep and have people thinking we “don’t need them”.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

My dog has been attacked by esas. I miss my old friend. They would protect me, but they graduated. I am confused. I don’t know who is my friend.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Essentially, it went downhill and everyone began talking about me without actually saying my name, but they would say “that student has issues”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

What is an esa)

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Anonymous replying to -> sage_cyclone46 1d

Emotional support animal

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Sorry to hear that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I went through the same type of bullying in elementary school, but they rage baited me in different ways, basically just teasing me until I got extremely upset (as in shouting). It gradually isolated me bc my friends just kinda didn’t want to be around when it happened and I couldn’t figure out how to explain to them why it was so upsetting so we grew apart. The only thing I learned from that is to not engage and to basically never trust anyone who did this even once ever again. Online, if-

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

-you genuinely try your best to explain to them your point and it feels like you’re talking to a brick wall, stop engaging, they either genuinely believe what they’re saying and refuse to listen to anyone who’d disagree (therefore trying to convince them otherwise is a fruitless effort) or they’re rage baiting you. I also need you to understand that there’s nothing wrong with you, it’s sadistic fuckers like these that make the world worse. I wish I could be there to try and help support-

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

-you, but instead I’ll wish you luck. I got through this, so I know you can too❤️

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Omg this made me cry. Thank you for saying that. You don’t know how much I needed to hear it.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Sometimes it’s the world, not u

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

You’re very welcome, I’m glad I could help at least this much :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

Us owners already have a difficult time being able to get approval or move them in. So I hate that happened to your dog but not all esas are like that and you shouldn’t generalize them.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

I have multiple disabilities as to why I need my ESA so it is a bit ableist to say that just because an ESA is not a service dog and attacked your dog. If anything the owner should be in trouble or the school should have guidelines but saying esas shouldn’t be allowed in “non pet friendly buildings” is a bit abelistic and furthers the idea that they “aren’t needed”.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

emotional support animals, by definition, are helpful but not necessary. if you need your emotional support animal to help you perform your tasks of everyday living, you should look into having it reclassified as a service dog and trained appropriately.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

I don’t know the ins and outs of emotional support animals and service animals, but I had a roommate who had a service dog for anxiety so it’s absolutely a possibility

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

that’s going to be an unpopular opinion, because more people have esas than service dogs, but i’m sure people are just being defensive of themselves or their friends. if you keep your chin up and pretend it doesn’t bother you, it’ll go away eventually. you need to definitely report the owner of anyone whose esa attacked your service dog to your school or housing authority.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

That’s actually not true. And there are so many cases where they are “necessary”. Again people like you are perpetuating the ideas that Esas aren’t “necessary” or it’s not as serious or needed as service dogs which isn’t true. Also my ESA isn’t a dog. Even if he was it’s not sugars and rainbows to get them trained and made a service dog. So love how you say that as if it’s so easy. Also where I live you can’t make certain animals a service animal so the closest I can get to is an ESA.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

You clearly didn’t read anything I commented. Like I said you and the OP are supporting and perpetuating the idea and negative stigma that ESAs are fake or not needed or we make it up. Just because some peoples disabilities are more visible than others doesn’t mean the ones who aren’t don’t need the support like of a ESA. I’m done responding y’all are ignorant and ableist.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

i had a delta society service dog for similar diagnoses to what you have, and since her passing, i have a cat that provides great emotional support to me. i mean this in the kindest way possible, but it sounds like you may be clouded by a bias of frustration about inability to access care and taking it out on the wrong people. your cat, nor my cat, nor anyone’s cat unfortunately cannot perform the same tasks most people who need a service dog to live accessible lives require.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

You don’t know my diagnosis so don’t speak for me. I can access care do you want me to change the law? I’m not frustrated at all you’re purposely being obtuse about my point which is again why I said I wouldn’t be responding anymore. The whole fucking point is ESAS are needed no matter the disability and the op shouldn’t have said that period.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

Also yes cats can there are so many service cats that do. And if the law here allowed that my cat would. Again you don’t know my disabilities nor do you know how my cat helps them. Stay in your lane. You and the OP are ableist simple.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

Also not by definition ask all of my fucking doctors weirdo. You’re blocked ableist weirdo.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

i didn’t say your esa was fake or made up at all? i said they are proverbially, and often literally, an entirely different animal than a service dog. it is a lot of work to get a service dog trained. i did it. and it is also a process to select an appropriate emotional support animal. i did that too. both have helped me in different ways. but to insinuate they’re comparable in any way just because someone may not have access to a service dog is a false equivalency.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

I never fucking compared them you bought it up first wtf? You’re deadass trying to rage bait me there’s no way

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

I’ve done both with past animals I’m not fucking dumb. Both fucking animals can do similar tasks to help with the same disabilities you clearly don’t know what you’re talking about like I said blocked!!!!

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Anonymous 1d

I say this with as much compassion as someone can in a comment, I think you need to step away from a bit from this for the moment. Turn off your yy notifications at least for this post and come back later, I don’t think 4’s responses warrant the degree of frustration seem to be feeling

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

*step away for a bit from this

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

It did and I’m not going to let yall gaslight me. Are 4’s friend get the fuck out of my comment

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Yall aren’t about to attack or gaslight me READ THE FUCKING THREAD. They were being obtuse and wanted to be disagreeable period

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Fuck you and 4 you’re blocked too yall are so weird and ableist.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Like how are you going to tell me how to feel when someone is PURPOSELY just trying to disagre with you and perpetuate the idea that ESA aren’t “needed”. We fight so hard to get them already and here yall go saying this bullshit. Fuck YOU

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

I did read it and it didn’t seem that way to me, but I can reread it. Again though, I think it would do a lot of good for you to step away for at least a few minutes. This is one random person on yy, it’s not worth getting as angry as you seem to be getting

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

I’m not angry but yall got me fucked up and I will defend myself so fuck you. No I don’t need to step away stop trying to fucking gaslight me.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Idgaf if it was if it TikTok y’all try to say that shit as if it’s supposed to matter what we’re on it doesn’t. I don’t care if it was in person they’re still fucking wrong and so are you leave me the fuck alone.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

Dude, the way you’re typing seems clearly angry? How else are we supposed to interpret it?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Thank you for defending me. They dmed me to say I was weird and ableist, which was a lot to hear as I am already dealing with cyber bullying from my school. I want to clarify I very much support esas in housing, just not in non-pet friendly buildings outside of that. I actually help esa owners on campus some time when they get pushback from housing to get approved by helping to explain the law to them so they can use it to defend themselves

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