Neurodivergent on Sidechat | Real talk, as an autistic man how do I make the first move without feeling like a creep? I’m hardly even awkward anymore since I’ve been working on that for my entire life.

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Neurodivergent 7w

Real talk, as an autistic man how do I make the first move without feeling like a creep? I’m hardly even awkward anymore since I’ve been working on that for my entire life.

Anonymous 7w

Just be yourself, if they got headphones on then don’t try anything, be respectful, and if you’re worried if anything your doing is making them uncomfortable, just ask them straight up. Communication is key

Anonymous 7w

tbh in this department I think you may have an advantage, bc a lot of guys who Aren’t autistic totally lack the self-awareness to recognize when their attention isn’t welcome most women (not all ofc) don’t really want to be approached in public with flirtatious intent when they’re busy going about their day, so I think your best bet is to get in the habit of striking up friendly casual conversations with strangers in general

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#2 7w

cause when you organically build up a rapport with someone without deliberately seeking a romantic or sexual dynamic, you leave them the space to decide how they feel about you and how they want to proceed, rather than immediately putting them on the spot re: whether or not they’re open to something more-than-platonic. if you have chemistry, it’ll turn into flirting without you having to take direct initiative

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#2 7w

Ok wait that actually really helps thank you!

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OP 7w

🫡 glad what I had to say was useful! I’ve mostly met people I dated via online, but the one time I met a partner casually in public it was because they commented on my band hoodie and I was able to carry out a friendly conversation with them on the fly about the music scene / subculture the band was part of. so I think using your clothes & general appearance to convey your interests can also help