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does it make me a bad person to not wanna talk to people……it’s so hard for me to listen unless it ACTUALLY pertains to my interest, if not, I can’t fake that shit for the life of me and withdraw…….
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Anonymous 4w

Nah good and bad don’t exist fam, and even if you believe in it, i think most people would agree that you can’t think someone is bad for functioning in a way that they literally can’t control

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Anonymous 4w

Not a bad person, but you’ll have a hard time in life. It’s important to be able to maintain positive relationships with acquaintances if you plan to work in an office environment, and it’s often the first step to becoming friends with someone

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Anonymous 4w

Doesn’t make you a bad person. But people will perceive you as selfish or conceited so you need to learn to fake it or else connecting w others will be hard. I don’t care about most stuff my friends say but I pretend to because I love them and I know they’d feel hurt if I only participated in things that interest me.

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Anonymous 4w

I’m still quite reclusive and withdrawn myself, but in terms of how to navigate socializing & how to avoid making people I like feel shut out, my best strategy has been to just develop a Ton of interests and consciously lean into curiosity. that way I can usually find ways to relate to / stay engaged with subjects people around me wanna chat about

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Anonymous 4w

damn

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Anonymous 4w

you’re not a bad person because it’s not intentional, but i had a friend like that and i felt like shit every time we talked because it felt like they didn’t care about me either. imagine you go over to a friend excited to tell them about something and they very obviously stop paying attention or flat out walk away. imo it’s something you’re gonna have to learn

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

ig everyone’s fake, #cynic4life

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

thank god I don’t work in an office lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4w

which is ofc also rewarding for me, not just a cope or an altruistic pursuit or w/e lol. cause I don’t tolerate boredom well in general! so I look for points of interest everywhere—political, aesthetic, thematic; any possible connections back to the realm of stuff I actually enjoy thinking & talking about. over time you amass more and more established fascinations that way

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