
Doesn’t make you a bad person. But people will perceive you as selfish or conceited so you need to learn to fake it or else connecting w others will be hard. I don’t care about most stuff my friends say but I pretend to because I love them and I know they’d feel hurt if I only participated in things that interest me.
I’m still quite reclusive and withdrawn myself, but in terms of how to navigate socializing & how to avoid making people I like feel shut out, my best strategy has been to just develop a Ton of interests and consciously lean into curiosity. that way I can usually find ways to relate to / stay engaged with subjects people around me wanna chat about
you’re not a bad person because it’s not intentional, but i had a friend like that and i felt like shit every time we talked because it felt like they didn’t care about me either. imagine you go over to a friend excited to tell them about something and they very obviously stop paying attention or flat out walk away. imo it’s something you’re gonna have to learn
which is ofc also rewarding for me, not just a cope or an altruistic pursuit or w/e lol. cause I don’t tolerate boredom well in general! so I look for points of interest everywhere—political, aesthetic, thematic; any possible connections back to the realm of stuff I actually enjoy thinking & talking about. over time you amass more and more established fascinations that way