There’s a difference between a meltdown and a tantrum

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Honestly, I feel like it’s about setting expectations, following those expectations and sticking to the plan. Obviously there’s always gonna be little deviations, but if you said we need to run one little errand and then we’ll go get food, and it’s 3 hours later, no wonder the kid is peeved. Kids motivations are way simpler than adults, but their communication skills to explain what’s wrong when they do get overwhelmed is rough.

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i really hate to say this but being undiagnosed as a child probably contributed to me having a relatively normal life. like obviously it only worked out that way because i'm high functioning and i still have difficulty with a lot of social cues but now i'm in college and I understand that sometimes i'm just going to be uncomfortable and people aren't obligated to accommodate me in every situation.

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my parents locked me in my room and cut me off from all social interaction and love whenever i struggled to regulate myself 😍 i obviously have no ptsd from that and it has never effected my relationships as an adult

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so obviously this isn't possible for every child, but my mom always asked if me and my sibling wanted to go into the store and if we didn't she would let us stay in the car. but if there was no choice about going in my mom would task my sibling with looking after me which seemed to help. I think some level of accommodations is important and that you need to meet your kid where they're at. like my dad would lie about where he was taking us and then get surprised we would freak out lol

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Tough love is important but it’s something not enough parents want to give

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