Neurodivergent on Sidechat | Ngl a lot of yall have this demonized version of neurotypical people in your mind that keep you from positively interacting with them

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Neurodivergent 21h

Ngl a lot of yall have this demonized version of neurotypical people in your mind that keep you from positively interacting with them

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Anonymous 20h

I think it’s important to keep in mind that you can’t always tell whether another person is genuinely neurotypical or not, too. some people prefer to keep their diagnoses private, some haven’t sought diagnosis because they’re unaware that their experience isn’t the norm, some have many neurodivergent traits but don’t quite meet full diagnostic criteria. some neurodivergent people will also “seem” neurotypical, whether due to masking or not, especially if you don’t know them well

Anonymous 20h

i see this happen with trans and queer people as well demonizing Straight People as a whole (or cishet etc etc) and it's so irritating on so many levels (i am a queer trans person before anyone decides im just a cis straight white man who's butthurt about pride or something)

Anonymous 3h

not demonizing neurotypical people, but they don’t get it. I’ve tried for years (20+ years now) and i just genuinely cannot be close friends with them. The people I do become friends with who are neurotypical end up getting a neurodivergent diagnosis.

Anonymous 16h

Yeah I guess so but like they’re scarryyy

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Anonymous 21h

I’m only returning the favor.

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Anonymous

#1 21h

yea so that’s the issue! two wrongs dont make a right, and most people are neurotypical. saying an entire group of people is bad is ridiculous and ignores nuance. “returning the favor” would be acting rude to a nt who was rude to you, not being an asshole simply because they are nt.

Anonymous

#3 20h

all that to say, I don’t think it makes any type of sense to move through the world assigning everyone an “us or them” categorical label even if you know yourself to strongly prefer socializing with other neurodivergent people it’s fine for that to be a preference ofc, but yeah, it becomes counterproductive once someone reaches the point of “neurotypicals pleeease fuck off” / refusal to extend patience & compassion to people you interpret as NT

Anonymous

#1 20h

You must be fun to have at parties

Anonymous

#1 20h

Sorry, I wrote this kind of tongue in cheek, I don’t actually hate neurotypical people. I should have made that more clear, I realise I looks like Schrodinger’s Asshole right now haha

Anonymous

#5 13h

Ghosts are scary… angry lions are scary… neurotypical people are NOT scary. They’re different.

Anonymous

#6 13h

ghosts aren’t actually scary… just needed to make a point

Anonymous

#1 13h

they’re not malicious. they just don’t understand.

Anonymous

#7 2h

“I genuinely cannot be friends with them” do you realize how pathetic that sounds?

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Anonymous

OP 2h

it’s wild what you’re saying this as a neurodivergent person tho. Neurodivergent friends just get it, with neurotypical friends it takes years for them to kind of understand

Anonymous

OP 2h

and the quote ain’t “cannot be friends with them” it’s “cannot be CLOSE friends with them” i can be friends with them fine but the most judgement i’ve faced about my life (holistically) is by neurotypical people - I don’t understand why you’re tryna clap back on people’s lived experiences. it’s not as if we woke up one day and decided to not fuck with them, and it’s not that we all HATE them, we’ve just learned they hurt more

Anonymous

#7 2h

Ok any good relationship takes work. Sounds like it just taking the path of least resistance :/ I work with nt people and it’s not “impossible” for them to understand like you’re positing.

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Anonymous

#7 2h

The distinction you made doesn’t make it any less pathetic ngl

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