Anonymous #1 7w

yea so that’s the issue! two wrongs dont make a right, and most people are neurotypical. saying an entire group of people is bad is ridiculous and ignores nuance. “returning the favor” would be acting rude to a nt who was rude to you, not being an asshole simply because they are nt.

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Anonymous #3 7w

all that to say, I don’t think it makes any type of sense to move through the world assigning everyone an “us or them” categorical label even if you know yourself to strongly prefer socializing with other neurodivergent people it’s fine for that to be a preference ofc, but yeah, it becomes counterproductive once someone reaches the point of “neurotypicals pleeease fuck off” / refusal to extend patience & compassion to people you interpret as NT

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Anonymous #1 7w

You must be fun to have at parties

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Anonymous #1 7w

Sorry, I wrote this kind of tongue in cheek, I don’t actually hate neurotypical people. I should have made that more clear, I realise I looks like Schrodinger’s Asshole right now haha

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Anonymous #5 7w

Ghosts are scary… angry lions are scary… neurotypical people are NOT scary. They’re different.

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Anonymous #6 7w

ghosts aren’t actually scary… just needed to make a point

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Anonymous #1 7w

they’re not malicious. they just don’t understand.

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Anonymous #7 7w

“I genuinely cannot be friends with them” do you realize how pathetic that sounds?

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Anonymous OP 7w

it’s wild what you’re saying this as a neurodivergent person tho. Neurodivergent friends just get it, with neurotypical friends it takes years for them to kind of understand

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Anonymous OP 7w

and the quote ain’t “cannot be friends with them” it’s “cannot be CLOSE friends with them” i can be friends with them fine but the most judgement i’ve faced about my life (holistically) is by neurotypical people - I don’t understand why you’re tryna clap back on people’s lived experiences. it’s not as if we woke up one day and decided to not fuck with them, and it’s not that we all HATE them, we’ve just learned they hurt more

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Anonymous #7 7w

Ok any good relationship takes work. Sounds like it just taking the path of least resistance :/ I work with nt people and it’s not “impossible” for them to understand like you’re positing.

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Anonymous #7 7w

The distinction you made doesn’t make it any less pathetic ngl

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Anonymous #6 7w

It can be both! But I still think it’s worth the effort to connect.

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Anonymous OP 7w

whoa, hey, don’t you think this is an undeservedly antagonistic reaction? #7 wasn’t saying they flatly avoid neurotypical folks or that they can’t be warm & personable with them most people don’t have very many close personal friendships to begin with, so it’s not like what they said is evidence of discriminatory bias or anything

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Anonymous #3 7w

I think it’s an incredibly defeatist attitude to write off a whole group of people as possible friends. If a nt person said “hey I just can’t be close friends with nd” people it’d be seen differently. I don’t think there should be a difference.

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Anonymous OP 7w

I have mixed feelings on this subject, but either way, I still think articulating your perspective in this fashion is a much more appropriate response than jumping all the way to calling #7 “pathetic”, you know what I mean?

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Anonymous OP 7w

personally I would say the difference between “I can’t be close friends with NT people” and “I can’t be close friends with ND people” is that—while it’s def not always a cleanly-divisible hard binary—neurodivergent people generally experience a form of societal oppression based on our neurotypes, so bias held against us is part of a much broader & demonstrably more-dangerous system of discrimination

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Anonymous OP 7w

i feel like it's dishonest to present it as "nd vs nt" given all the different ways someone can be neurodivergent- it isn't just The Divergent monolith. there are people, nd or nt, who can't be friends with people who present autism a certain way or have certain autistic traits, and yeah, that's fine.

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