its not bad at all

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As an autistic woman, I found my autistic man and we have such an awesome dynamic of hobby sharing

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I wouldn’t say it is. I’m learning I prefer to date Autistic men because there’s much less explaining and masking to go through.

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as another autistic guy i feel the same. i thought i’d never have a girlfriend until i met an autistic girl who i really clicked with. we broke up but it made me realize that autistic girls are probably who i’ll be able to actually connect with

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there's a difference between finding mutual camaraderie and connection with autistic people and so preferring to have relationships with them, and actively seeking relationships with autistic people like people who fetishize autism do. it sounds like you might've worded your tastes poorly and got accused of being in the latter group instead of the former.

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I think it’s only bad when neurotypical people say it because they don’t mean it as in “autistic” they mean it as “quirky and funny minus all of the ‘bad’ traits”. Like the moment I have a breakdown and cannot be touched they run for the hills

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There’s definitely a difference between an autistic-autistic relationship and a neurotypical/allistic guy going “I want an autistic girlfriend”. One is a sense of similar life experiences and point of view, and the other is fetishization.

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