OMFG my mom is the same way. Super picky about everything and insists that I’m not autistic just antisocial and that I need to “get over” myself and just deal with stuff. She refuses to believe that high functioning autism even exists, but I took a test last night and got an AQ of 40 (a very high score) and she just brushed it off like “you’re just antisocial”… like bsffr it asked more than just social stuff. I’ll get an official diagnosis one day when I can afford it.
But at the same time she still probably wouldn’t believe an official diagnosis bc she was carrying on last night about how autism is “waaay over diagnosed”, so I can’t wait to move out of this house because she always either makes fun of me or tries to prove me wrong when I tell her or show her something.
RIGHT and i just sit there eyeing him like... "they would love to study ur brain." my dad was the one who taught me to see socializing as a game and just playing by the rules publicly since he knew i had a hard time wanting to be around others especially after establishing a social circle. the ways we exhibit our behaviors brought us a lot of personal success which is why he'll swear it's just society not being able to recognise intelligence but do things that are a little too on the nose 💀
for us it's mostly cuz we're from a country where disabilities of any kind are swept under the rug/try to keep them out of sight as much as possible. only my immediate family knows my diagnosis and they do provide me a lot of support w therapy and accommodations (especially when the things that distress me are the same for my dad loooool) but we don't say a word to relatives or family friends