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I genuinely do not have the capacity to work a full time job and do other important life things. 100% of my effort at work = no energy at home. Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated
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Anonymous 71w

not enough spoons i completely understand

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Anonymous 71w

i don’t have any advice as i’m in the same situation but i will say that you’re not alone in this 💖

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Anonymous 71w

Finding the balance is really hard, I feel you. When I was a full time summer worker and full time student last summer I was ready to break at all points and had little to no social or home life. Thankfully work filled social for me, but I was still left with no energy at home, but finding my routine helped me a lot and making sure to schedule at least one fun thing a week made me have something to look forward to. Also giving less than my 100% at work helped me, but that’s not best practices

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Anonymous 71w

I work 60+ hours per week. Some things that help me is bringing snacks that I can eat throughout my shift (and I bring dinner to eat during my meal break). I also bring Gatorade to keep my electrolytes up. And I ask for physical accommodations because I am disabled (a chair when needed, meds and food, etc). That stuff keeps my physical energy up. I bring my headphones so I can talk to my boyfriend during my hour lunch break, and I bring a word search so that I can do that on my breaks.

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Anonymous 71w

Sometimes naps help, even just hour/hour and an half ones you take directly after getting back to get yourself in a different mental space for the rest of the day. Like I just got back and 5 and slept until 6:20pm, and now I’m rested enough to actually enjoy the next 6-7 more hours of my day

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 71w

I am able-bodied (as far as I can tell), so I’m not sure if that analogy even works for me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 71w

it applies to nd ppl too afaik

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 71w

Oh cool, thanks

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 71w

Ur so right I need smth exciting

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 71w

I like dnd so I like saying spell slots more than spoons if that makes you feel any more comfy using that term (I’m physically disabled and nd)

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 71w

That stuff helps fulfill my social needs and keeps things bearable. To keep my brain stimulated, I try to ask for new tasks if there are any. When I’m just stuck in the same monotonous tasks, I try to have lively internal conversations with myself or make elaborate plans for my future.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 71w

Tell me why my immediate thought was yes baby spoons fix everything (im still confused are you talking abt actual spoons???)

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 71w

no friend😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 71w
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Anonymous replying to -> #2 71w

Lolll still love a good teaspoon

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 71w

Naps unfortunately do not work for me, I just get irritable when I wake up

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 71w

Thank you for offering your support though :)

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Anonymous 71w

Trying to nudge my psychologist in that direction without trying to sound drug seeking.

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Anonymous 70w

Currently I have none but I just started treatment so hopefully that’s on the cards for later

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 70w

LOL I thought the same thing at first 😭

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