i do understand wanting to have hope bc i’ve been in shitty friendships/relationships before, but once i hit my limit, i was out. i’m not gonna keep going through that just because one day they MIGHT say sorry, hell no. i think it comes down to a lack of self respect in a lot of cases, i respect myself too much to let someone talk to or treat me like that and not care at all about what they’re doing to another person.

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And I notice that I just kinda cut people off or block them when they’re being negative and keep wanting to get back as friends/relationship. And I think I offended her cause she said “it’s not easy after being in a long term relationship” and I thought to myself, “I was in a year long relationship, why didn’t I keep going back” . Am i cold hearted or ?

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I get it. I told my friend who was kinda like an older sister to me on her wedding day that she shouldn’t marry him, and continued to tell her to leave him every time he was abusive until I couldn’t take her inability to let go anymore and I never spoke to her again. It’s not difficult to move on. I think our object permanence differences help us to let go easier

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i think situationships are just when one person is leading the other on. in my experience you either want to be with me or you don’t i’ve never had a situationship

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THANK YOU literally i don’t understand that either, it’s so easy to cut people off

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Maybe I just don’t understand how that’s brutal honesty, but I think the question is fine. And everything that followed was just you realizing how you process relationship dynamics differently from the friend. IMO, keep seeking to understand your patterns, but defer judgement till you have a fuller picture. But also, people land in them out of dependency and familiarity. If it was healthy, they’d be calling it a relationship.

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