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Anonymous 2w

I was told I just had bad social anxiety, and that peers weren’t actually talking about, thinking about, or mad at me. I found out later that many absolutely were, and I feel so gaslit. I WAS RIGHT THE WHOLE TIME AND NO ADULTS BELIEVED ME!!

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Anonymous 2w

And all of a random sudden people like and want to be round you when you’re a hot adult who has hobbies and ambitions. But you literally refuse to trust people, cause you can’t go through that again.

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Anonymous 2w

That and finding out that you’re not paranoid or delusional for believing that there are entire friend groups that you barely know who view you as a punchline. A classic “ugly autistic” person experience.

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Anonymous 2w

literally all the girls at my middle school hated for no damn reason and everyone just told me that i was crazy. why are middle school girls such jackasses

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Anonymous 2w

can #7 be shot please

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Anonymous 2w

Does anyone know why number 7 is on here I thought other neurodivergent people would be supportive and not gatekeep stuff like they are

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Anonymous 2w

YUP.

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Anonymous 2w

Yeah, I don’t wanna think about this 🥺 I’m just a loveable goofball. (Plz love me ❤️)

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Anonymous 2w

Story of my life right here, EVERY SINGLE neurotypical friendship I had other than my current college roommate (who is studying to work with autistic children as a teacher) was like this cause I was different and they couldn’t accept it even though some had it themselves and masked it

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Anonymous 2w
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Anonymous 2w

Here me out: core autistic experience is finding out your friends aren’t really your friends

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Anonymous 2w
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Anonymous 2w
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Anonymous 2w
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Anonymous 2w

OUCH

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Anonymous 2w

That’s so fucked up.

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Anonymous 2w

Are you ok ? Why are they named differently ?

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Anonymous 2w

The only thing I would add is that the friends hate being around when I’m effectively autistic. Hence, they’re friends.

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Anonymous 2w

Autism isn’t being stupid.

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Anonymous 2w

Then you or the person can explain.

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Anonymous 2w

You need to stand up for yourself.

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Anonymous 2w

The first step is realizing that just because you don’t fit in, doesn’t mean you’re autistic.

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Anonymous 2w

It’s devaluing to people with actual autism.

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Anonymous 2w

You have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about.

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Anonymous 2w

See? You run away. Because you’re wrong. :/

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Anonymous 2w

I wasn’t once being rude, just asking for a conversation.

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Anonymous 2w

I didn’t ask for a paper, I asked for something small. It is never hard to explain a simple point.

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Anonymous 2w

The worth, meaning, and enjoyment of your life is not determined by petty social horseshit - having the default experience means fuck all - it's not a health problem you need to overcome and feel like shit if you don't, it's an arbitrary bullet point. Rather than relating to how shitty that feels, we should be talking about why everything you want in life is still possible...

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Anonymous 2w

No man. Y’all are not austistic, maybe Asperger’s.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

i was clinically diagnosed with paranoid personality disorder because i stopped trusting people when, at a very late age, i figured out that my friends were NOT my friends 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

I feel seen

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Fr in college people have just taken advantage me or hated me. Right now I’m not close with anyone.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

I’ll love you ❤️❤️❤️. I’m super affectionate and I get attached to people way too easily.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Autism is different from intelligence, though. If you made it to college, how do you explain that?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

What if the assignment was to see if people are taking advantage of you?

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

That’s Asperger’s. Barely.

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Anonymous 2w

Instead of downvote, explain?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Oh my god :(( how did you find out

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

I didn’t down vote you my dude. I just got out of the shower.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

For reference I don’t up or downvote anyone

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

Bitterness sounds like something my sister would say. I guess I don’t feel the next to explain anything. Especially to a singular stranger on the internet. It’s not a personal attack. It’s just I don’t feel like spending the energy to try to give you my lifetime perspective. I do hope you have had a good experience bruh.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

Why not? I’m not being negative.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

I stand by my statement. Refusing to trust someone over that has nothing to do with autism. Especially if you call people bro.

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 2w

But then immediately say “what! We don’t bully!” And try the victim. The sick part is they actually believe it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Yeah I mean I was never one to confront. I genuinely feel like it’s happening again in college, but I have no idea really. It’s just this one specific group of people but they act like they’re popular, and even if nobody really likes them, they can still indirectly influence others to view me as a “sped kid.” You do realize ugly people are their own social class and must play by different rules to normal people right? Even other autistics don’t like uglies.

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 2w

That proves my point.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Maybe listen to what I can give.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Exactly, but this is also an ugliness comment on top of being neurodivergent. It’s 10x harder if you’re sub par looking, and 5x harder than that if you’re taller/bigger (not even fat) so you stand out.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

You realize those are the same things right...

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Asperger’s is literally the outdated term for high functioning autism dude.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

Exactly! Ty

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

LEVEL ONE AUTISM THEN Jesus.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

I’m legitimately a psychology major taking a class on behavioral and mental disorders. JUST read about this in my class textbook.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

Pretty sure #7 is just bored and thinks rage baiting and being rude is fun

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

Exactly. You’re learning. Not a teacher.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

I’m LEARNING. Aka I just LEARNED about it in my class. I read it straight from a textbook my guy.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Are you implying that while learning professional up to date medical information, you are incorrect if you say what you've learned, even if it is a fact? Just bc you aren't a teacher yet?

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

I can’t ever tell anymore with dumb people like this. I hate when people think they can do stuff like that because it’s not face to face.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

Yes ? I mean, let’s have a conversation about it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

EXACTLY!! Like the pre-med neuroscience and psychology double major that’s graduating a year early knows NOTHING because they’re learning… dumb mindset. Growth is always possible, but it doesn’t devalue where you are at any given moment.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

So a fact is automatically wrong if you say it as a student?

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

But no one is giving a a good reason or argument.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

Yeah.. I like to just assume they're just trying to get a rise out of people because they don't have anything better to do, probably best to not interact with them, and if they do actually want learn and have an open mind, they can come back and be nice

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Would you like the link to a research paper or something?

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

But no one cares to have a conversation.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

I'm trying to, but it's kind of like talking to a wall with your replies

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Just posted the actual pictures of the textbook. Feel free to check my resources.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Current DSM-5 does not have Asperger’s as a disorder; it’s high functioning autism

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

Much appreciated :) I was going to post the same basically

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

The fact no one is addressing my point, is validating things.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

You’re amazing, my friend!🫶🏻

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

What's your main point then? You were talking about Asperger's being different and that's what I was addressing

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

That Asperger’s = autism

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

The fact not a single one of you can have a normal conversation, proves the point.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

As are you!! 💖 I hope your day/night goes well :)!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

Ahh ok that's what I thought it was but sometimes I lose track of things

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

This guy is legit ragebaiting since I sent the textbook links and he’s still being stupid, so I’m done. Thank you for being a fellow intellectual and a lovely person! Love when people back up claims with science and being nice🫶🏻🫶🏻

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

No, man, I legit want to have a civilized convo.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

Lmaooo same. Can’t read social cues though so 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Then read the textbook pages. They’re from experts since you don’t believe students. I put the actual textbook name and author on there as well, so you can check the credibility. Or, if you don’t believe scientific professionals, do some research on google scholar. Thanks 🙏

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

Or, we could have a conversation. Why is that wrong?

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

I think I'll leave it here too tbh, not worth the energy And also of course and same to you!! Hope you have a stress free night friend!

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

Have a great night!

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

We left because you are not receptive to anything we provide and are being inconsiderate amongst other things You are not worth our energy, do your own research

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 2w

This made me bust out laughing 🤣 wealth is the ONLY factor that dileniates class babe. Ugly people are beautiful to kindhearted folk, and there are plenty. Some truly mean spritz will say some naaaasty shit, but I swear no ONE likes those rude venemous people. Only wannabes and yes men, they hate them too deep down it’s suuper scary 🫣 idek!! But girl ur beautiful. And if you feel ugly GO SHOPPING, get a special treat. I’m gonna start a makeover business bc I just wanna help you so bad 😭🫩

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 2w

I’m a dude lol but thanks

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 2w

Maybe stop drinking, Jesus.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Please trauma inform yourself

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

Ragebaiting most likely

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

Thanks

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

Ofc :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

I’m pretty sure we are all diagnosed and valid diagnoses (according to accommodating institutions) can cost like 6000$ in the US please check your privilege

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 2w

That definitely had NOTHING to do with what was being discussed, but yeah, dude.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

You aren’t arguing anything, made it to debate nationals in the us and your “arguments” are either clear logical fallacies or just not even arguments. They are mostly statements of emotion with no evidence.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

And show them.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

I guarantee that most people don’t have the time, energy or the will for consideration to debate with people who don’t provide an argument in the first place.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

That’s an example of a fallacy statement btw maybe analyze it

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

Dude just answer then!

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

This is a misinformed argument, due to your lack of knowledge surrounding the comparison between a body of water and an ocean.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Saying “actual autism” without providing a definition for what autism is, provides no real way to counter an argument.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Not an argument, just rage bait

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Provides no definition for what it is and makes assumptions based on unknown qualifications

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Anonymous 2w

You “think” or you know. You are unsure.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Not an argument.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

There. I systematically went and dismantled every single one of the statements I found relevant. Though I didn’t find a single argument.

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Anonymous 2w

I didn’t have good grades and I didn’t function in school. Every part of it was, and still is excruciating. What does that have to do with my comment about me being treated as a social outcast because of my autism while adults in my life told me it was all in my head?

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

A combination of looking back at my younger years with the knowledge I have now, friends always eventually distancing themselves from me, other kids always messing with me for laughs, and even being straight up told at one point that nobody actually liked me, they just tolerated me

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

I’m sober I’m just whimsical 🥹

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 2w

You’re a lovely young man, I’m sure. Sometimes it’s a matter of needing a new haircut

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

Listen, if you didn’t wanna know 3 hours of facts about hot air ballooning, maybe you just arn’t cool 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2w

High functioning autism is also an outdated term too though.

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Anonymous replying to -> #13 2w

I’m really glad that your college roommate is like that. I’ve met plenty of people (mostly privileged neurotypical monolingual white women) studying to work with autistic people that are ableist, racist, or just assholes. And then they’ll talk to autistic people in a condescending tone. That’s one of the reasons why I want to become an SLP.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Oh yea, almost all the teachers that worked with special needs students in my middle and high school treated them terrible. They’d scream at the girl with tics for having flair ups and belittle them, call them “not normal” one even called a guy inhuman. It was terrible.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

That’s rich, considering one will fucking listen lmfao.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

Same :( and no one ever did anything

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

ME TOO OH MY GOD

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

i have paranoid personality disorder too and it’s literally because of this shit

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

EXACTLY

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

Socially, debatable. Psychologically, it’s still used quite frequently. I’m speaking specifically within the field of psychology’s standards.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

it’s an arbitrary distinction, it doesn’t really matter

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

yea because you don’t want to have a discussion, you want to tell ppl they’re wrong and be told you’re right

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