Anonymous #7 4w

Are you the person with learned helplessness, or the person dealing with them?

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Anonymous #8 4w

My nightmare

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Anonymous #4 4w

not a perfect explanation but people who rely on others for help instead of helping themself, sometimes passive and don’t really do anything for themselves at all which creates problems that someone needs to save them from, can also manifest as/with a victim complex in extreme cases

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Anonymous #6 4w

Learned, and I know where and why and how. It the hard part of having to do the effort to get back. It really isn’t as simple as just doing smth or leveling it along side of other issues and mental health gaps people can have. It’s like having depression, anxiety, ADD (not the full rounded ADHD, like og ADD) CPTSD, and bipolar disorders. At least where I’m at in growing process, many many years later. It really does decimate a person to nothing but autopilot

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Anonymous #4 4w

Learned helplessness is a state of mind. Best noted from electrocuting a floor to give dogs no escape to where they no longer fully feared the shock and let to happen because they were trained to be shown no way out. Even when shown a way out and forever safe, the dogs didn’t believe or attend to the opportunity. They sat on the floor shocking them, helplessly. Imagine this but people and situations

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Anonymous #12 4w

This is really where it starts, some times it’s not even their fault. Product of their environment I guess

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Anonymous OP 4w

It wasn’t (fully.. he was listening to crazy sermons in their younger years) his intention to make her so dependent

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You try telling a grieving 80 year old widow that she has to change everything she knows

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Anonymous #12 4w

i hope your mother is doing well! but yes, it’s definitely different and more difficult for someone to learn to do things they’ve never had to do before because they’ve had someone to rely on for it, especially on top of grieving and being older. i’m just starting to get independent from my parents and even with some help, it’s a lot to figure out. wishing your family all the best

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Nuance. Some people are intentionally raised that way due to cultural reasons. So it’s easier said than done.

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Anonymous #10 4w

Thank you! We’re getting through, my grandma refuses to move closer to us (6 hour car ride) so we can’t even be there for her as much as we would like

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Anonymous OP 4w

*usually* it’s not their fault, hence the “learned” in “learned helplessness”… the term generally refers to people who’ve been traumatized into not seeing any clear path forward from whatever pit they’ve ended up stuck in. it’s not just a personal failing they’re inflicting upon you if you have so little patience and compassion for their position that you’d feel the need to make a post like this, just break up with them so they can move on and find a partner who doesn’t resent them over it

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Anonymous #7 3w

I relate to this. Am I one too? lol

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