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Neurodivergent 1d

Are there any other woman in here that feels like they are being a woman wrong like how does one do it right 😭

Anonymous 1d

I’m not a woman but I’ve never been satisfied with my gender and I feel like I can’t be who I am while being a man but I also wish I could be who I am without changing my gender or pronouns.

Anonymous 1d

I just call myself nonbinary and carry on lowkey

Anonymous 1d

i do but im trans so probably not the same thing

Anonymous 1d

this entire comment thread is so mutually respectful and well-articulated, omg. no awkward linguistic choices that indicate covertly regressive attitudes towards trans people Or towards gender-nonconforming cis people, and even the replies about the relationship between autism & transness are totally sensible and unassuming… gotta be one of the top 3 chillest groups on this app, we love to see it 💞

Anonymous 1d

You should also ask in the Autistic Girls community

Anonymous 3h

yea i cycled thru so many gender identities, the only thing that remained consistent was my singular attraction to women (lesbian) and my pronouns (they/she). i found that no label truly encompasses my feelings because i relate to the experiences of being perceived as a woman and the sexism that follows, but i cant relate to other women well because im gay and autistic and ive met a lot of women who are a certain type of person (male centered). it’s hard to feel like a woman when it’s all

Anonymous

#1 1d

Oh I didn’t know they had that

Anonymous

OP 1d

I know it exists but I’m not on there because I’m not a girl

Anonymous

OP 1d

Hope you found it! Sending you lots of love!

Anonymous

#1 1d

Omg yeah thank you!

Anonymous

#1 1d

Yeah I feel the same I know for sure I’m a woman I just feel like I’m performing what a woman is supposed to be like especially around new people :(

Anonymous

#1 1d

I can’t work in a female dominated field without being treated differently by the women around me. I can’t be too friendly, affectionate, or care about others without people doubting my genuineness. Oh and the next thing I’m going to mention is an autism thing in general, but people saying “he’s a bit odd” for no fucking reason.

Anonymous

OP 1d

Oh sorry I didn’t see your comment

Anonymous

OP 1d

I feel seen! Thank you!

Anonymous

#1 1d

It’s ok I feel you I tend to get more closed up and anxious around men because I feel like they’ll notice I’m acting like a woman correctly so I get being seen as odd!

Anonymous

#2 1d

I might do the same. Now when asked for pronouns I say he/they. This is probably why a lot of autistic people are nonbinary or trans. It’s because we can’t conform to normal societal expectations.

Anonymous

#1 1d

agender here, and yeah this is def the case for a lot of people. but, additionally, many autistic people can conform to societal expectations yet simply don’t want to, and are more willing to break out of the mold because of that

Anonymous

#1 1d

apagender type shit yk?

Anonymous

#5 1d

Thank you! And I agree 💞!

Anonymous

#1 12h

EVERYONE SAYS THAT TO ME TOO OML

Anonymous

#8 3h

socially constructed. not that the identities of woman and man aren’t real, but they are constantly changing in language and behavior, so while most men and women keep up with that shift, i feel like autistics get left behind on the social scripts of what it means to be in a group

Anonymous

#5 2h

Wait, I just wanna say yeah, I agree 100,000%. I don’t fit in with girls at all and I feel like I fit in with men in a way because of how blunt they are, like there’s no guessing games about the way that they feel about a situation. that is also kind of disheartening to me because I don’t find myself really sexually attracted to them because of the way that I’ve kind of started to lose that respect.

Anonymous

#7 2h

You’re definitely not the only neurodivergent woman who feels this way. I’ve heard this from many other people, from people I actually know to random autistic content creators. I’m a guy and I wish I had more guy friends. At the moment most of my friends are women, and it causes me more social anxiety because I find them harder to read (unless they’re also neurodivergent). I had a group of guy friends freshman and sophomore year of college but they were really toxic.

Anonymous

#1 2h

Yeah, I literally get degraded and bullied for not being sexually appealing to them if they call me like mainly because I’m a bodybuilder lol

Anonymous

#1 2h

And my dad, honestly kind of raised me to think like man social things He told me to suck it up, move on move from the past, but it’s hard because emotionally I do struggle sometimes. I am still a female with female hormone levels. etc

Anonymous

#7 2h

I love it so much