People just like a more gentile delivery. Take it from me, I work with middle schoolers. Unfortunately, people in my day to day life have not really gotten past the mental space of “i don’t like being told what to do” “if I’m being told what to do, I’m not my own person and I’m losing a part of my identity.” So they need a very calm approach to instruction.

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When you tell someone a better way to do something, they interpret it as you telling them that they’re wrong, which could carry implications of insulting their intelligence. There are things you should correct, like health and safety concerns, but there are things that don’t need correction. If the result is functionally the same, you don’t need to micromanage others and tell them how to do things.

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UPDATE asked my manager if we could sit down and talk over the things that had been said to me and she confirmed that she has had not a single complaint from anyone, some of the things that I was told were blatant lies, and she’s never seen me do or say anything out of line and I feel a lot better about it

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