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Neurodivergent 1d

Am I the only autistic person who: - Understands (given context) sarcasm, jokes, metaphors and idioms? - doesn’t mind small talk, understands its importance - doesn’t get bothered by lights or clothes - prefers a variety of foods? AuDHD if it matters.

Anonymous 1d

no, everyone has their own struggles, those are just somewhat common ones. I think people also have a hard time telling when people are sarcastic much more often than just not understanding sarcasm at all

Anonymous 23h

- I also understand sarcasm, jokes, metaphors, and idioms for the most part. Sarcasm can be a bit tricky when talking with someone unfamiliar or someone who struggles to communicate directly and as a result might use sarcasm to mask passive aggression - Small talk is fine as long as we’re actually talking and not just saying things to say things, like how 2 said the “how are you” “good” exchange sucks but I do it anyway

Anonymous 1d

I’m diagnosed with adhd but people keep telling me I’m autistic so my responses -I can usually tell unless it’s over text -depends on the person. I don’t like talking to strangers in general so when someone I don’t know tries to engage in small talk, that’s particularly uncomfortable -unfortunately hella bothered by that, I have so many sensory issues (heightened by the fact I have chronic pain so I’m sensitive to most things 😅) -love eating a variety of food but when cooking for myself…Im lazy

Anonymous 1d

I came back to read this all in the daytime and I realise it sounds kind of like I’m being smug or a pick-me. I do struggle with other things because of being autistic, just not these. Like I’m a less empathetic person in general, unfortunately, and I can be very prone to indecision.

Anonymous 1d

No you’re not, im usually fine with most of these

Anonymous 1d

-depending on the person delivering the sarcasm or joke, people I expect it from or strangers absolutely, people in my life who rarely use it, it goes over my head. I get metaphors and idioms tho -I quite enjoy small talk. I’m a very private person and don’t enjoy talking about my special interests with people I don’t know well. I do hate the quick passing by of “how are you” “good” thing tho but I still do it as a greeting -most lights are cool unless they’re flickering

Anonymous 19h

No i've suspected autism for a while now but I also heavily prefer a variety of foods. I get sick of the same foods really easily

Anonymous 1d

Genuine question that isn’t meant to be rude, but when were you diagnosed? What age? I’m curious

Anonymous

#2 1d

-clothes it depends on if it looks good and feels bad or looks bad and feels bad. If it looks good I don’t mind, but if I feel stupid and feel bad texture, it’s a no go. As a kid I had a lot more difficulties with it tho

Anonymous

#2 1d

-I have preferred and safe foods but will try anything once

Anonymous

#2 1d

I don’t notice flickering lights, but I think bright lights hurt my eyes just as much as anyone. I’m much more sensitive to loud or high pitched sounds though, including some people’s voices.

Anonymous

#4 23h

Diagnosed with ADHD in middle school, and with autism in my early 20’s. Currently 24

Anonymous

#6 23h

- I do get bothered by lights if they’re too bright, but otherwise I’m fine, even with flashing or flickering lights. I’m also not very sensitive to clothes, even tags on the back of collars. I am sensitive to tags put on the side seams, like on the side of the torso. That and thumb holes are rarely completely comfortable for me, they always slightly press into my thumb in a way that’s really uncomfortable. - in general I prefer a variety of food, though I’ll often eat one meal for breakfast-

Anonymous

#6 23h

-, lunch, or dinner for like a week straight and then I get tired of it and choose a different meal to be the same over and over for a little bit

Anonymous

#6 23h

I’m also audhd! My main sensory issues are with sounds, bright lights, and dry clinging sensations (dry skin, corn starch, matte wall paint, etc). I also very thoroughly understand facial expressions, enough that I think I’m fairly good at drawing them (I’m an artist) accurately even when I’m trying to make them look posed and not genuine. Made me doubt for a while that I was autistic until I finally got my diagnosis

Anonymous

OP 22h

My hypothesis is that you went so long masking (because you didn’t have a diagnosis) is that then you unintentionally didn’t find issues with these things because you weren’t aware of them as being part of “you” so they didn’t become part of “you”. So later in life, when you were diagnosed, they weren’t part of your struggles cause they weren’t recognized in the first place due to masking. Idk just my thought…hope that makes sense!

Anonymous

#1 20h

Yeah, these are the ones I see most commonly that are different from my own. I’m not worried about it since I’m professionally diagnosed but it is a bit interesting. I would think my traits are more common but it’s the other way around.

Anonymous

#4 15h

It’s an interesting thought process, and applies to some things in my life, but I’ve always been interested in linguistics and pretty adventurous with new foods. I haven’t always been good at small talk (part of it is the transition from being seen as a child to seen as an adult). If I could mask my way into seeking novel foods, then ARFID would be solvable with exposure therapy or talk therapy.

Anonymous

OP 8h

out of curiosity, what traits are those? I do think there’s a wide variety, hard to say for certain what’s more or less common

Anonymous

#1 5h

The traits I listed above, I mean. Which are kind of the absence of many autistic traits, so it’s hard to explain.