Neurodivergent on Sidechat | I hate being a tall man. ADHD gives you amplified emotions, and my size and gender is like a megaphone that scares people. even excluding gender differences, I feel like small people are more allowed to express themselves.

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Neurodivergent 18h

I hate being a tall man. ADHD gives you amplified emotions, and my size and gender is like a megaphone that scares people. even excluding gender differences, I feel like small people are more allowed to express themselves.

Anonymous 18h

even excluding gender, I feel like short people are more allowed to express themselves. they can scream and wave their arms around, take up a lot of space, and they're not a public burden because of it.

Anonymous 48m

I want to be excited about shit but I feel like I have to show discomfort in my own body and seem withdrawn to make people feel safe since I’m so tall :/

Anonymous

OP 18h

when you're told that you're too loud as a child over and over again, you learn your life isn't interesting enough to react to. you must pretend that everything is mundane. and then people wonder why you have a flat affect

Anonymous

OP 17h

I am short and small, but I went through a similar thing with my parents. They would call me annoying or loud constantly. Maybe that’s partially bc I was born female and it was “inappropriate” for a girl to be hyperactive. They pretty much taught me that I had to be quiet all the time and not cause any problems. And if I got emotional or upset, that I would be seen as crazy or hysterical. But I understand that taller people can be viewed as more intimidating and aggressive, even if they aren’t.

Anonymous

#1 17h

I think people are so separated from community these days that they judge anyone who expresses anger, frustration, or other “bad” emotions. You’re either seen as crazy, not taken seriously, or viewed as dangerous based on your appearance. If you surround yourself with the right people, they should never make you feel like a burden because you have emotions that you gotta express

Anonymous

#1 17h

for real! it's like you're not allowed to be unhappy. I appreciate your perspective. it seems like the pendulum can swing both ways.

Anonymous

OP 17h

I can definitely see the advantage I have as a small woman because I’m not often viewed as dangerous. And it’s unfair that people see you that way sometimes solely because of the body you were born in. Especially with social media, you’re expected to seem happy all the time