Anonymous #1 1d

“Ok.” is terrifying actually lol

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Anonymous OP 1d

Alright.

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Anonymous #2 1d

Yea I usually use okie just cause it’s the form I learned it in :3 also def agree for the other ones okay is when I’m feeling more neutral/maybe a bit down and ok is when you just explained something over text and it didn’t fix the reason I was mad at you (or you’re my mother and said anything at all. But really now that I think about it those are the same reason) I feel like I use okie more than when I’m just overtly happy or exited though

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Anonymous OP 1d

I use it when I’m too angry to even come up with a response/don’t even think it’s worth it lol. “I’m sorry for manipulating you” “ok.”

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Anonymous #1 1d

that’s the one that got me 🥶

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Anonymous #3 1d

I never knew these different okays had different emotions and meanings. I just assumed some people wanted to be different so they spelled them differently

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Anonymous #5 1d

How do I tell which okay means what when someone sends one? Is there an agreed upon definition for each, or are they more individual? I always just assumed it all meant okay

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Anonymous OP 1d

I’m a bit worried now because I’ve definitely sent “okay.” as a response, but I meant it as a normal “things are alright.” type of response. Do people think I’m being mean?

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Anonymous #4 1d

I don’t think OP is actually demanding that of others, just expressing their nervousness at being texted in a tone that’s neutral rather than warm & friendly. they probably deal with RSD or have severe anxiety or ptsd or something like that, no one’s being infantilized

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Anonymous #6 20h

Yeah I’m neurodivergent and anxious as fuck, so I need a clear way to measure the tone of a text when I can’t see facial expressions/hear the tone of voice

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Anonymous OP 20h

What about tone tags?

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Anonymous #4 19h

seriously, which person are you saying is being “infantilized” in this situation? the speaker or the OP? genuinely cannot comprehend what you’re talking about personally when I’m speaking to friends I often use emojis and exclamation marks and unserious affectations like that to convey lightheartedness, bc otherwise I know my demeanor may sometimes comes off as aloof over text. it’s also a way of letting my guard down and showing platonic affection

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Anonymous OP 19h

which is perfectly reasonable! like, being deliberate about communicating good-naturedness & warmth when I’m messaging someone I’m close with is an intuitive thing for me And a preference

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Anonymous #5 19h

depends on context and who you’re talking to, it’s a very subjective thing, so don’t fret over it too much. and I think it’s usually noticeable on some level when you’re messaging someone who (like me) is anxious or traumatized in a way where they may need reassurance sometimes that you aren’t upset with them

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Anonymous #5 19h

so it’s nice / appreciated to accommodate that fearfulness with little deliberately-friendly cues when you think of it, but I def don’t think you gotta worry about being seen as actively hostile or unpleasant in a general sense for not doing so by default!

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