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Neurodivergent 16h

sproutedseedling

 you have ONE meltdown in front of neurotypicals & suddenly you’re given a whole other name in response to it & for times “when it happens again.” it’s not funny. i’m already embarrassed as is, & i can’t bring it up bc “im too sensitive.”
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Anonymous 16h

i find it quite infuriating. i’m already upset with MYSELF for how i handled that situation & for my behavior. i didn’t intend to meltdown like that, but shit happens. i apologized to those involved. why are others who weren’t involved being roped into this whole name thing?? and why is it being dragged on?? like i’m already humiliated can we drop it??

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Anonymous 16h

straight up, tell them this shit. it’s absolutely not funny. nobody would say that to a person with epilepsy that had an episode, or a person with diabetes having had a glucose crash… it’s degrading and you do not deserve to be mocked, belittled, and patronized over something that you cannot control.

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Anonymous 10h

Next time a comment is made tell them “thats a weird thing to say to someone” (and do so seriously. Make sure you don’t lighten your words with a little smile or laugh or add buffer words) make them feel embarrassed for their behavior because treating your friends that way IS embarrassing

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Anonymous replying to -> sproutedseedling 16h

so now i’m afraid to even show emotions because i don’t want to be called this fuckass name that was made up. i cry? it’s going to be that name. i express frustrations? it’ll be that name. god forbid i express my emotions instead of holding them in

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16h

ok, i responded to you & yak took it down for whatever fricken reason so i’m going to attach the ss of my reply

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Anonymous replying to -> sproutedseedling 15h

that’s how it works for me too sometimes with my asd. it’s a risk to take but i trust that you can pierce their paper banner of “you’re being sensitive” when in reality — no, you’re being honest about your lived experience and the disability that comes with it. if they can’t handle the truth that they ARE mocking, patronizing, and degrading you with THOSE words (maybe not to anyone else, but YOU specifically!!). you can’t just take off the adhd and leave it at the door.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15h

if they can’t handle that truth then, welp, THEY’RE the ones being sensitive. they don’t want to be seen as mocking, degrading, or patronizing to a disabled person so they’re going to make it seem like it’s your problem for having a problem with their actions/words/complicity… and unfortunately, that’s like textbook “how to treat a minority” or something bc you’ll see that applied everywhere! something you can’t unsee.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15h

you’re right. i’ll keep this in mind, figure out what to say, and hopefully approach the person with it all.

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Anonymous replying to -> sproutedseedling 15h

thank you for this :)

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Anonymous replying to -> sproutedseedling 15h

Try to meet them with grace, so their repetitive “sensitive” comment falls off like water on a duck’s back if they try to use it during that conversation. Make sure to mention what the dynamic was prior to that event, and get them to recognize how they’ve started speaking to you completely different since that day. Emphasis on how it is NOT comedy nor is it an inside joke, as it is clearly punching down and you never found it funny (this is the worst explanation so pls shut that down asap)

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Anonymous replying to -> sproutedseedling 15h

always glad to help!!! i find im really good with words and people sometimes, particularly when approaching conflict or social issues… and no wonder my special interest is steven universe lmao 😂

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15h

you definitely are, i love that!!!

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Anonymous replying to -> sproutedseedling 15h

and i will! i’ll try to approach it like that (maybe slightly dif just because of who i’m dealing with), but i’ll definitely keep this in line :)

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Anonymous replying to -> sproutedseedling 15h

*mind, not line

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9h

Also when I’m trying to decide if it’s worth the fight to have conversations like this, I try to remember that I am not just standing up for myself but I am also advocating for anyone else like me that may interact with this person. Because if they are ok saying it to someone they supposedly care about they definitely will say it about a stranger

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