Like what does romantic attraction even feel like?

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Like I’m the only one of my friends not in a relationship so I wonder if I’m just trying to force myself to like someone so I can feel normal.

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Same, when I look back in my past romantic interests I feel like my brain was forcing itself to “love” someone instead of genuinely having romantic interests

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Omg yeah I felt this. I would get crushes on guys when I was younger, but half the time I would only feel interested in them bc I already thought they liked me, and I wonder if it was compulsive heterosexuality.. Nowadays I’m comfortable with women and uncomfortable with men in terms of the idea of dating them (and more), so idk if I’m like… bi or lesbian on the Demi-ace spectrum???

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These are smart questions that show care and attention toward yourself and your own needs. To ask them in the first place (vs launching into relationships) takes more emotional intelligence than most people have. Take a minute to feel some pride in that. Your brain may indeed be playing a game of “oh maybe this one.” It’s just considering the available options for connection and presenting them to you. Don’t despair over that, it’s natural.

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