I know exactly what you mean. It’s difficult but rewarding, just like dating anybody you deserve a person that matches your energy that won’t find you as overly affectionate or clingy when you meet someone that’s right for you

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The best advice I can give is to find someone who is also neurodivergent. Not necessarily autistic--just someone who can understand your differences. My girlfriend has ADHD and Tourette's, and even though she didn't quite understand everything at first, she was very open to learning. Ironically enough, the relationship almost didn't work out because I didn't realize she liked me until like 2 months in. Also, communication is ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL in a neurodivergent relationship.

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Honestly, autism hurts it so much. One person literally snuggled with me in a hammock but told me nothing was romantic and just “friend stuff.”

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“Too much? Then go find less.” is all you need.

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I mean tbh the way i've been thinking lately is....this is a great problem to have vs all the people that compulsively cheat or abuse. Plus LOTS of people are struggling to find someone these days: it's not your fault, it's a systemic issue. Autism makes things SLOWER, not *impossible*.

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Autistic adhd here yea but I realize it’s less about it being difficult and more about finding alignment with my authenticity. For instance i find those better suited while I go out selling “Galactic Nomad Downloads From the 5th Dimension” and seeing how that book connects with folks

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Just find someone who’s as equally weird as you. I would say embrace your quirks and the right person will love you for who you are.

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Me. I can’t seem to move at everyone else’s pace either I move too fast with that trauma bond, or too slowly because I often need to know someone to want them and they get bored. I can’t do sex without commitment because I catch feelings with physical touch and I’m just kind of a disaster at this point.

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Me but with adhd minus the affection

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Also once you get used to being alone for some reason that’s when the right person comes along.

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Yes, but I finally found the person who made it all worth it ❤️ hang in there

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