Situation: there’s a friend my partner has that I get a bit jealous of bc of how close they are. It was supposed to be an “us week” but my partner went back to our hometown to send time with friends (this friend being one of them). Today we were supposed to be celebrating our 4 years but instead of finishing doing that, this friend needs to be picked up from the airport bc they missed their flight

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And that’s not their fault bc the gate got changed and they weren’t notified or whatever but now they’re spending the night. Again, “us week”. Nobody was supposed to spend the night this week (as we talked about bc people have been here too often and it’s been overwhelming me in our new place)

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But this friend lives like an hour and a half away and it would be unreasonable if I asked if we could just take them home or have someone get them from our place tonight. And I’m really upset about the situation, but I’m not allowed to be because it’s just circumstances coming up and it’s nobody’s fault

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But I am SO very upset rn

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And it’s irrational but I feel like it’s my partner choosing them over me and I HATE that feeling (again even though I know it’s irrational and not what’s happening)

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You have every right to feel that way and it’s completely rational. Yeah things come up and they’re just being a good friends in a time of need. But that doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to feel pissed/disappointed/sad/etc. You should definitely bring it up with them and just basically let them know you understand from their standpoint while also telling them you feel hurt

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