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Mental Health 4d
Broke up with my therapist. Am I fundamentally misunderstanding therapy? She seemed to have a professional objection to asking me questions, said we can’t go deeper on things unless I bring them up. But I have, and she never asks follow ups, she (cont)
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Anonymous 4d

therapists use different theories and techniques. it likely just was a mismatch. you need one who aligns with what you are looking for. can’t ask for an orange out of an apple

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Anonymous 4d

No that’s definitely a her issue.

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Anonymous 4d

just sits there while I cry and validates what I’m feeling in a way that became borderline condescending and like coddling by the third session, only once and a while explaining something about the brain, and trying to teach me techniques and strategies for surface level problems (all of which I’ve already learned five times over) but, but never ever going deeper. It just feels like a waste of money.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

I thought therapists would help you gain insight to your thoughts, patterns, and behaviors, be invested and investigative about your background and experiences, follow the thread and try to gain a thorough understanding of where you’re coming from so they know where to go.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

It feels like I’m bleeding out and she’s trying to put a bandaid on my knee when it’s my arm that’s cut off, and she refuses to acknowledge the arm because I’m not pointing at it.

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 4d

Thanks I needed to hear that. It’s just frustrating because it took me years to work up the courage to see a therapist and now I’ve just got this bad taste in my mouth about it all

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4d

Definitely, I only wish I’d been able to identify that mismatch earlier - I was too focused on not giving up on therapy too soon

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