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Mental Health 33w

i want to be needed, but i NEED to be wanted

Anonymous 33w

i am neither and it’s slowly killing me

Anonymous 33w

you don’t need anything. all there is is want. you want to be wanted but there’s no such thing as being needed. need implies requirement but your existence alone proves you don’t NEED anything but you may deeply want it. you want to feel wanted and needed but you put that into the control of external factors and thus you are always disappointed. if you want to be wanted then want yourself. love yourself. don’t expect it or “need” it anywhere else but yourself. no one has to love you or want you

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Anonymous

#1 33w

so stop making someone else’s validation of you determine whether or not you allow yourself to be happy. you chase a feeling from others so much because you don’t believe in yourself. you don’t believe you can give yourself what you’ve so desperately wanted all your life. just to feel wanted. so learn to want yourself, to be there for you when no one else is. you just want your own love, so give it yourself

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Anonymous 33w

love the reply, never said it wasn’t normal and i hope you didn’t interpret it as that. people seeking connection is healthy and totally normal. you don’t “need” others to want you. you want it and it’s totally normal, but you don’t need it to be okay. self love and realigning your values and giving yourself control over your own happiness and realizing you don’t NEED others, is a healthy step towards growth, but everyone’s entitled to remain the way they are. i hope they find the love they …

Anonymous

#1 33w

deserve