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Mental Health 5d
i want to be needed, but i NEED to be wanted
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Anonymous 5d

i am neither and it’s slowly killing me

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Anonymous 4d

you don’t need anything. all there is is want. you want to be wanted but there’s no such thing as being needed. need implies requirement but your existence alone proves you don’t NEED anything but you may deeply want it. you want to feel wanted and needed but you put that into the control of external factors and thus you are always disappointed. if you want to be wanted then want yourself. love yourself. don’t expect it or “need” it anywhere else but yourself. no one has to love you or want you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4d

so stop making someone else’s validation of you determine whether or not you allow yourself to be happy. you chase a feeling from others so much because you don’t believe in yourself. you don’t believe you can give yourself what you’ve so desperately wanted all your life. just to feel wanted. so learn to want yourself, to be there for you when no one else is. you just want your own love, so give it yourself

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4d

feelings of connection and being wanted by others platonically and romantically is a normal thing bc we are social creatures that typically need some kind of social web and to know that we mean something to others. maybe not feeling wanted bc u have yourself is enough for you and that’s okay but that isn’t the norm. community is necessary for people’s wellbeing

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

i hope you find the right people 🫶🏽 ily stranger!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4d

love the reply, never said it wasn’t normal and i hope you didn’t interpret it as that. people seeking connection is healthy and totally normal. you don’t “need” others to want you. you want it and it’s totally normal, but you don’t need it to be okay. self love and realigning your values and giving yourself control over your own happiness and realizing you don’t NEED others, is a healthy step towards growth, but everyone’s entitled to remain the way they are. i hope they find the love they …

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4d

deserve

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3d

that’s valid i hope i didn’t come off as rude! guess it just sounded like the wrong thing to say to this person in the moment, because i think knowing that you matter to others will always be something that we as people NEED, but individually we all have varying degrees of reliance on that feeling of being wanted. if that makes any sense. but i get where you’re coming from! loving urself definitely helps but i dont think its always enough bc interconnection will always do more than you can alone

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