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Need advice bad, my brother has been saying increasingly aggressive things to our little brother lately and being kind of cruel to him. Last night he said just matter of fact, indifferent that he wanted to hurt him, that he needed to hurt him, and 1/2
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Anonymous 21h

This is an absolute emergency. When someone explicitly states a specific intent and an urgent 'need' to hurt a child, it must be treated as an imminent safety crisis. Because he refused to go to the hospital voluntarily, you and your mom need to take immediate, protective action: 1/5

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Anonymous 21h

Lock Away Weapons: Ensure all knives, tools, and sharp objects in the house are securely locked up immediately. Write Everything Down: Document his exact quotes, timelines, and behaviors to hand directly to the doctors or emergency responders so they understand the severity and don't just dismiss it as 'sibling fighting.' 4/5

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Anonymous 21h

Call Emergency Services (911) Immediately: Do not wait for him to agree to go. Call 911 and tell them: 'My 11-year-old brother is making explicit, repeated threats to physically harm our little brother, says he "needs" to do it, and has refused to go to the hospital. We cannot keep the household safe and need an emergency psychiatric evaluation.' Ask if they have a Crisis Intervention Team (CIT). 2/5

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Anonymous 21h

Complete Physical Separation: The 11-year-old and the little brother cannot be left alone for even a single second. If possible, the little brother should stay with a trusted relative entirely until this is resolved. 3/5

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Anonymous 21h

Please don't try to manage or diagnose this (like psychopathy) at home right now. Sudden or intense fixations on hurting others can be caused by severe, acute psychiatric issues (like early-onset psychosis or severe mood episodes) that require a secure hospital evaluation. Your priority right now is calling for emergency backup to protect your little brother. 5/5

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Anonymous 23h

he will hurt him. So my mom made the little brother sleep upstairs with the door locked and I locked my door too, and she called the hospital but he refused to go. This morning he said that he still feels the same and literally said “I promise that I won’t kill him, I’m just going to hurt him”… like wtf?? What do you even do in this situation? Hes 11 and we’ve discussed like maybe he has psychopathy, cause he rarely shows empathy or care for things, but he’s never done stuff like that before

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Anonymous 14h

if he is 11 years old then he does not get to make that decision if he wants to go to the hospital or not. your mom needs to send him to the hospital

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

They said they were experiencing delays and taking him there could have my mom and him waiting there for up to a week, but she’s basically a single mom of three kids so 😬 it gets tough. I had to go inpatient and the hospital wait was 18 hours one time, and it was already hardly working

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

We are doing this 🙏

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

We actually have all knives and scissors locked up already because the little brother was displaying similar behavior a few months ago. Thank you for the documenting idea

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

Thank you for all the information!!

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